Two years ago, DH and I had a custom house built on an acre in a new subdivision - it's a really, really nice place to live - big spacious lots, only house in the cul-de-sac, 12 acre common area surrounded by private walking path, etc. Our house isn't some mansion or anything, but we lived for 4 years in a tiny 950sq ft, 2bed1bath "crap shack" so that we could pay off the lot and then have a large amount to start building. Out new house is 1800 sq ft ranch with 3 bed and 3 bath and we'll be finishing the basement soon to have 3000sq ft of 'finished' living space (adding two more bedrooms and another bathroom plus media room and play area).
Anyway, ever since we moved and my SD started to visit more often (she lives a state away - usually we go to visit her, but since we've moved in and have so much more space, we have her come here more often than before), SD keeps talking about how her mom and stepdad are "going to put their house on the market because they just need a bigger house with more room" and her mom "needs things like granite countertops and a newer neighborhood". *eye roll* Their house is in a very nice area and could be listed for around 160k - the houses in the neighborhood that SD says they are going to move to go for around 350k-550k (quite a jump in house payment).
This has been going on for almost a year - SD telling us about moving to a bigger, better house. But, their current house has yet to be listed. We thought maybe this we kind of a reaction to the fact that SD would go home and tell her mom about our new house and everything and her mom thinking "oh, we need new stuff too" (her mom is the quintessential "keeping up with the joneses suburban yuppie wanna-be") - Sad, but whatever, doesn't really affect us except it bothers us that we feel like SD is being 'toyed' with...
What has happened lately is that everytime we visit with SD, mom calls her talking about "oh, we're going to put the house on the market when you get home" or "Oh, SF is taking me to go look at big new houses" . Like EVERY TIME she's with us...early this month, SD took a family vacation to FL - and we picked up SD after she left the airport upon returning (it was a Saturday eveining and we were keeping her until Monday afternoon). Sunday night, SD is huddled in a corner talking to her mom for the 3rd time that day (mom gives her the third degree if she doesn't answer her phone when with us) and when she was done, she tells DH - "I can't wait until tomorrow - my mom says that as soon as I get home, we're going to put the house on the market!"
WTF - this is the 5th or 6th visit where SD has received a call from her mom about putting the house on the market when she gets back home...and it is 3 weeks later and the house is still not on the market. And why couldn't this wait until the next day when she went back with her mom??! Why does BM keep calling SD when she's with us talking about selling their house and getting a new one? - Is it serious jealousy that we have a new house? I'd hope not! We worked hard to get this one - and though I LOVE it, it's not like going to be in any parade of homes any time soon. Or is it just another thing to ensure SD is excited about going home (when SD was younger, BM used to call her and tell her that she had so many prizes and presents waiting for her when she got home so that all SD could focus on was getting back there). What do you think?