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How to NOT get blamed.....

Posted by on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:19 PM
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Let's take some things from this very forum on lessons other SM's taught us on how not to get blamed. (as Lee puts it)

1. Don't be the other woman.

2. Don't be the other woman.

3. Find a man who's past relationship is FIRMLY behind him. If he is still in divorce court, it's too soon.

4. Stay under the radar for a while. Be like a dog....let the other dogs sniff your butt for a while till they sense no reason to fear...bark....play alpha or any reason whatso ever to bite your head off. Yes, that takes more than a year. No, it doesn't mean be a door mat.

5. Don't be the other woman.

Anything else you ladies could add that keeps a SM in a harmless position? One where she doesn't even get the chance to be the scapegoat? Anything YOU could have done better to take the target off of your own back?

by on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:19 PM
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minimoo
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:31 PM
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I would add...
1. Don't sleep with a taken guy
2. Come to peace with mom being mom
3. Respect boundaries (even if you do not agree with them)
4. Don't force or encourage the child to call you mom when mom is not OK with it
minimoo
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:32 PM
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And if there's a ring on it, refrain from liking it
minimoo
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:34 PM
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^^I am referring to a ring on his finger, not his cock. Don't want to be blamed for being confusing ;-) If it's on his cock, you might have gone too far.
mrsd2013
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:36 PM
Can you define 'being the other women'? Do you mean don't sleep with a married man or don't try to be mom? All the above? Or other?

This sounds like a multiple choice...
whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:38 PM
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6. Don't be the other woman.

minimoo
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:46 PM
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Other woman, do not be
AmericanDream
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:52 PM
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Be not the woman who is other.
baparrot2
by Platinum Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:53 PM
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LOL!!!!

whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:59 PM
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the nails of the 6yo, do not paint.

minimoo
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 9:33 PM
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Do not ever teach the following no matter how tempting:

in the shower, the periods stop.


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