Luckily for me, bm and I have always had a pretty great relationship and if I stepped on her toes she'd let me know but never in a nasty way. I would always apologize and try and not make the same mistake twice. I can honestly admit I do still make mistakes sometimes (they are much fewer and farther between) but I'm blessed to have an amazing relationship with my skids, my dh, and even bm.
After reading a lot on this site I look back and think I wish I'd not let my dh's expectations of me rule the way I acted. I wish I would have left more of the parenting on his shoulders instead of allowing it to be put on me. I wish that, at least in the beginning, I would have left the discipline to him.
So my questions for all of you....When you look back do you wish you had done something different? If so, what would you have done differently? Do you feel like your mistakes in the beginning have continued to negatively affect your relationship with sk's or bm?