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Not in CO so I can?

Posted by on Sep. 23, 2014 at 4:52 PM
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Bm told dh in an angry text that because the CO didn't say that she needed to be supervised during week day visits that she doesn't need one.

Backstory:

Bm has supervised EOWE. Dh was offering to allow her visits before school if she brought her supervised with her. Bm showed up every day without a supervisor and was denied the visits.

I always thoughts that if other visits weren't specified in CO OP couldnt be penalized for denial. Am I right on that?

Reason for denial btw: if dh allowed unsupervised visits at the school he would not have a leg to stand on when asking the judge to continue with it for weekend visits. He does not *not* want her to see ss. Just knows she needs supervision.
by on Sep. 23, 2014 at 4:52 PM
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soonergirl980
by Platinum Member on Sep. 23, 2014 at 4:55 PM
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Any visits outside CO are up to CP discretion so he can make any demands he wants of her.

mrsd2013
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2014 at 5:07 PM
Sorry bunch of typos,
Had to edit OP
cdrainey3
by on Sep. 23, 2014 at 5:09 PM
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If those weekday visits aren't specified in the co then your dh does not have to allow them and he should not allow them without a supervisor.
wise.toes
by on Sep. 23, 2014 at 5:10 PM

ohh stupid people logic. so funny.

she gets the visits outlined in her court order, nothing more unless okay'd by custodial parent.

if she wants more time, back to court for her.

mrsd2013
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2014 at 5:32 PM
So funny story. They're still in the middle of a year long custody battle. She didn't show up for her trail date. The day she was set to testify and end it all. Court date was the week before this school visit drama

Eta she said she was in the ER for tummy trouble.


Quoting wise.toes:

ohh stupid people logic. so funny.

she gets the visits outlined in her court order, nothing more unless okay'd by custodial parent.

if she wants more time, back to court for her.

mrsd2013
by Gold Member on Sep. 23, 2014 at 5:34 PM
Ok good. I wanted to make sure we weren't missing something.

Quoting cdrainey3: If those weekday visits aren't specified in the co then your dh does not have to allow them and he should not allow them without a supervisor.
mrsd2013
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2014 at 4:07 PM
The referee scolded dh today for not going against CO and allowing BM to make the visit. She said it made dh look vindicative. How does that make sense?

Quoting cdrainey3: If those weekday visits aren't specified in the co then your dh does not have to allow them and he should not allow them without a supervisor.
XXanonymousXX
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2014 at 4:14 PM
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It doesn't. How does it make sense that she is CO'd to have supervised visits on the weekends but during the week she can visit without a supervisor?

Quoting mrsd2013: The referee scolded dh today for not going against CO and allowing BM to make the visit. She said it made dh look vindicative. How does that make sense?

Quoting cdrainey3: If those weekday visits aren't specified in the co then your dh does not have to allow them and he should not allow them without a supervisor.
mrsd2013
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2014 at 4:23 PM
Exactly. I don't get it at all. Dh said the referee said he should have allowed it because other parent are present at a school. But dh just thought he was following CO.

I can't help but wonder if a BM was refusing the visit would referee reapond that same way?


Quoting XXanonymousXX: It doesn't. How does it make sense that she is CO'd to have supervised visits on the weekends but during the week she can visit without a supervisor?

Quoting mrsd2013: The referee scolded dh today for not going against CO and allowing BM to make the visit. She said it made dh look vindicative. How does that make sense?

Quoting cdrainey3: If those weekday visits aren't specified in the co then your dh does not have to allow them and he should not allow them without a supervisor.
pdxmum
by Ruby Member on Oct. 8, 2014 at 4:27 PM

Perhaps because he said yes, BM showed up and then he denied because of no supervision that made it appear vindictive.  It is probably best for him to just stick to the letter of the CO right now. 

Quoting mrsd2013: The referee scolded dh today for not going against CO and allowing BM to make the visit. She said it made dh look vindicative. How does that make sense?
Quoting cdrainey3: If those weekday visits aren't specified in the co then your dh does not have to allow them and he should not allow them without a supervisor.


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