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Is BM right?

Posted by on May. 17, 2015 at 9:49 PM
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I know I've been posting a lot of questions lately but it's awesome having some unbiased outside opinions on this stuff!!

My boyfriend of three years and I recently got engaged, bm is demanding that she be privy to all information about the wedding; when, where, etc. And has even said that she feels she has a RIGHT to go. She says because she's my SD's mother and this involves her daughter so she has a right to know and be a part of this because SD will of course be in the wedding. I don't want her there and neither does he. But do you think she's right? They don't have a good relationship and me and bm especially don't so why invite someone who is just going to be hateful, it's our day right?
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Rachael-Dawn
by Bronze Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:52 PM
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If it is out of town or something I think she has the right to know where it is in case something were to happen. When? If it is on his visitation I don't think a time is really ANY of her business. She definitely has no business going. That's just crazy.
Rocker.Mom.07
by on May. 17, 2015 at 9:53 PM
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BM is absolutely wrong. She must be crazy to think she has any right to your wedding.

leegirl_jm
by Ruby Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:57 PM
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BM is wrong, she has no right to your wedding details.
Atwitsend93
by Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:58 PM
We haven't even decided on a when or a where yet.. But it's going to be in the state and most likely in the town we live in. As well as during his week. I didn't think she was right but at their first custody hearing she brought it up saying "and I was deeply hurt that they didn't even tell me they were engaged let alone when or where they plan on having it, I'm ariannas mother for God's sake this completely involves My child's life!" the judge didn't say anything about it though, other than both sides need to share information regarding the child but we took that as medical, school and her personal well being, not our marriage

Quoting Rachael-Dawn: If it is out of town or something I think she has the right to know where it is in case something were to happen. When? If it is on his visitation I don't think a time is really ANY of her business. She definitely has no business going. That's just crazy.
runinpinkshoes
by Gold Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:02 PM
Exactly this.

Quoting Rocker.Mom.07:

BM is absolutely wrong. She must be crazy to think she has any right to your wedding.

Rocker.Mom.07
by on May. 17, 2015 at 10:05 PM
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The only way BM in our sitch knew about DH and I getting married is word of mouth or she saw the annoucement in the newspaper. The only way I'll know if my ex ever gets remarried is if he chooses to tell me.

Lea2004
by Bronze Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:08 PM
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Hell no, she's not right!!  This woman sounds like a peice of work...  but no, she's very much in the wrong and has absolutely no right to any information regarding your wedding.  If she simply wants to know where her daughter will be for emergency purposes, then fine.  But have security at the door ready to escort out any nuts that try to crash your wedding.  

CampHarris
by Gold Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:11 PM
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She's bat shit crazy.

I wouldn't tell her a thing. Congrats, btw!
Atwitsend93
by Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:13 PM
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Haha my mom will be as much security as I'll need. Bm told my mom how awful I am at their custody hearing so my mom is definitely not a fan of hers.

Quoting Lea2004:

Hell no, she's not right!!  This woman sounds like a peice of work...  but no, she's very much in the wrong and has absolutely no right to any information regarding your wedding.  If she simply wants to know where her daughter will be for emergency purposes, then fine.  But have security at the door ready to escort out any nuts that try to crash your wedding.  

Yari2688
by Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:15 PM
I wouldn't want her at my wedding either! She has no right to invite herself or demand all that info. Who does she think she is?!
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