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SM and rights...

Posted by on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:04 AM
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I still don't understand why some SM's believe that they have rights to other people's children.

It doesn't matter if you or CSM or just EOWE SM, unless you actually adopt your SK's, you have no rights.

POA are not rights. You can take them to the doctor, you can sign paperwork but that doesn't give you any right to make any legal decisions.

At the end of the day no matter how much a SM does for her stepchildren, what legal decisions they may or may not make or who they ban from picking up their own kids, kids will always choose their mother.

Hands down. I've seen it happen many many times.

I wish some people will realize this.


by on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:04 AM
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Ryansmom2004
by on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:08 AM
Not all kids will choose their mom. It depends on if their mom is in the picture or not, but, yes, the only way they have any legal rights is if they adopt them.
codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:14 AM
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You smoking something special???
No, kids do not always choose bp's..
I have several that prove that not true.
You truly sound like a bitter sm that didn't win over sk's.. though claiming martyr..
I really thought better of you
codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:16 AM
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But to further explain.. a parent with full custodial rights can give sm "power" to act on his/her behalf.. which does over ride a bp with no rights or custody.
codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:18 AM
POA.. give RIGHTS to act on parents behalf in case of absence..
destinyangl21
by Bronze Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:19 AM

No not bitter just speaking the truth.

I'm talking about BM's who are in the picture. Active involved parents.

I take it that BM in your situation is not an active parent.

Big difference.

Quoting codysara: You smoking something special??? No, kids do not always choose bp's.. I have several that prove that not true. You truly sound like a bitter sm that didn't win over sk's.. though claiming martyr.. I really thought better of you


codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:19 AM
What has your panties in a twist ?
codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:22 AM
Oh sweetie no.. do some research.
There is zero truth about your claims.
Bm?? Which bm?? My sister?? My ss bm??

Quoting destinyangl21:

No not bitter just speaking the truth.

I'm talking about BM's who are in the picture. Active involved parents.

I take it that BM in your situation is not an active parent.

Big difference.

Quoting codysara: You smoking something special???
No, kids do not always choose bp's..
I have several that prove that not true.
You truly sound like a bitter sm that didn't win over sk's.. though claiming martyr..
I really thought better of you

codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:24 AM
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Ok, so an active involved parent, would not require a 3rd party to assume a significant role.. why is this a surprise?


Quoting destinyangl21:

No not bitter just speaking the truth.

I'm talking about BM's who are in the picture. Active involved parents.

I take it that BM in your situation is not an active parent.

Big difference.

Quoting codysara: You smoking something special???
No, kids do not always choose bp's..
I have several that prove that not true.
You truly sound like a bitter sm that didn't win over sk's.. though claiming martyr..
I really thought better of you

destinyangl21
by Bronze Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:26 AM

Whichever BM is in your situation.

Just because Dad gives SM "power" as you say doesn't mean they have rights to another person's child.

BM is still BM. Not saying that she has a golden uterus or anything but she is still the mother.

I'm not putting down SM at all. Unless you legally adopt your skids you are still just SM.


Quoting codysara: Oh sweetie no.. do some research. There is zero truth about your claims. Bm?? Which bm?? My sister?? My ss bm??
Quoting destinyangl21:

No not bitter just speaking the truth.

I'm talking about BM's who are in the picture. Active involved parents.

I take it that BM in your situation is not an active parent.

Big difference.

Quoting codysara: You smoking something special??? No, kids do not always choose bp's.. I have several that prove that not true. You truly sound like a bitter sm that didn't win over sk's.. though claiming martyr.. I really thought better of you



codysara
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 12:30 AM
Again.. simply not true.
Yes, it may go to a judge in case of death, but a sp that has influence over a child vs an absent bp, does have sway.. or are you talking about something else?

Quoting destinyangl21:

Whichever BM is in your situation.

Just because Dad gives SM "power" as you say doesn't mean they have rights to another person's child.

BM is still BM. Not saying that she has a golden uterus or anything but she is still the mother.

I'm not putting down SM at all. Unless you legally adopt your skids you are still just SM.

Quoting codysara: Oh sweetie no.. do some research.
There is zero truth about your claims.
Bm?? Which bm?? My sister?? My ss bm??

Quoting destinyangl21:

No not bitter just speaking the truth.

I'm talking about BM's who are in the picture. Active involved parents.

I take it that BM in your situation is not an active parent.

Big difference.

Quoting codysara: You smoking something special???
No, kids do not always choose bp's..
I have several that prove that not true.
You truly sound like a bitter sm that didn't win over sk's.. though claiming martyr..
I really thought better of you

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