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Ok so i havent been gtg along with my family and my husbands family or should i say they arent gtg along with me (apparently they cant handle the horomones of a pregnant woman so they decide to avoid me) which i have no problem with cause i am better off but in the back of my mind i do wish someone cared and at least see how im doing and if i need anything. i have no friends or no one to really talk too and i am trying sooo hard not to get depressed but im not sure thats possible just because i have no one i can express my feelings too. all i do is take care of my daughter and be pregnant and no one who understands me or cares for my feelings. my husband works 24/7 and he needs too to make money for the new baby we're having in dec. everyone hates me so much i dont think i am gtg a baby shower and i dont think we will have anyone to watch my daughter while i go in labor. ugh! i wanna cry but i am so over crying for people who dont care about me it just affects me and my baby and my daughter, my husband and i argue now more for some reason its like hes more mean too me and i feel like sometimes he doesnt care how i feel or that i am alone allll the time. i wish i can pick up the phone and call someone and cry too them without being judged or critized, i hate being in this situation. once i have this baby i will be soo ready to have a job and i hope its easier this time around. too top it all off i have Gestational Diabetes and i feel like i havent been able too talk to someone about it on how i feel and the fears i have for it.

anyway i can go on and on but i guess for now i will end here.

by on Sep. 12, 2011 at 11:34 PM
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calebjenny
by on Sep. 13, 2011 at 7:19 PM

 

Quoting LovelyLauren55:

I'm so srry you're going thru all that!!! Vent away, and if you need a friend, feel free to add me or pm me -hugs-

 

McM0609
by Member on Sep. 13, 2011 at 10:17 PM
Ok ladies ... I need opinions and advice. So I spoke to my mom and MIL about everything and how I felt but why do I feel so guilty and why do I feel ashamed for letting them know how I feel? Why do I regert letting them know my feelings?? Ugh!! Im confused.
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USAFamily
by on Sep. 13, 2011 at 10:25 PM

 Maybe you just don't want to 'trouble' them with your issues -but really, it's for the best that you did. You may feel awkward now, but in the long run, everyone can be on the same page and hopefully they can be more supportive towards you!

Quoting McM0609:

Ok ladies ... I need opinions and advice. So I spoke to my mom and MIL about everything and how I felt but why do I feel so guilty and why do I feel ashamed for letting them know how I feel? Why do I regert letting them know my feelings?? Ugh!! Im confused.

 

McM0609
by Member on Sep. 14, 2011 at 12:41 AM
Thanks LindaClement, thats awesome advice. I appreciate it very much!!


Quoting LindaClement:

Nice vent.


If I were to give you any advice (not that you asked for it, do whatever like with it) I would suggest investigating the possibility that you're not sad, but furious... maybe the timing of this baby is poor, and you're feeling trapped and irate, or you were on the verge of feeling like you were really coping with your life and now it's all going to change, so you're livid... or you've just realized that your dreams for you life that you'd clung to through all of what's been hard to handle have clearly been made impossible, and you'd like to tear someone's hair off --only it's no one's fault, not even your own...


Fury causes depression, not sadness. It's that, socially, fury is so dangerous that our bodies will numb us out, create a lot of tears (to release the stress) and stop us from reaching out to others (so we don't end up with the Pregnant Lady Massacre)... the trick is figuring out what's causing the fury, and how to deal more effectively with it (than the anger)...


Be gentle with yourself... you have a lot of hormones driving your thinking right now, and it's probably not really logical --or something you'd recognize as logical at a different point in your life.


Drink lots of water. Eat excellent food. Rest when you need to, even if you have to put your feet up on the bench at the grocery store for a while. Don't think about what other people might be thinking, just take care of your needs.


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jedistar
by on Sep. 14, 2011 at 9:00 AM

frist you take care of you and your daughter and then you tell your hubby how feel tell him it not right that he and you have contol over your hormons right now and you would like a little help.. You devrse a baby shower just like any one else. I have be carfull i can get on soap boxs and fight for what is right for you and baby. the dibetes will go away, just rember that you have beautifull baby.

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