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Facebook is causing me great anxiety!

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Hi everyone, I'm new here and thought I'd throw myself into this right away!

After resisting for a long time, i finally joined FB. I would seem to be a good candidate because I'm far from home and it'd be a good way to catch up with friends and family. OTH I'm a bad candidate because my closest friends/family refuse to join so I ended up connectineg with long lost cousins, high school friends, former co-workers,etc. In fact the ppl I really wanted to connect don't seem to be on FB at all. Now I feel like a fish out of water and the odd one out because most of my FB friends know each other and I feel like I'm crashing the party when I post a comment. I do have an Aunt and Uncle who I know fairly well and they have been very welcoming

The point is, i don't want to look like an idiot to may family and friends and I'm not sure of FB etiquette and how to approach things on there. For instance, my uncle's birthday is today, so his daughter posted a song for him last night and wished him a happy b'day. Well, I was on and my first instinct was just to 'like' the comment, not to post since maybe she wanted this between her and her dad. But then later I saw someone else has posted happy b'day so I felt I should do the same, since I'd already 'liked' it. This morning I check and there is an entirely different comment set up with several ppl wishing him well and noone else posted on the daughter's comment. Now I feel I stepped on her toes, and I'm embarrassed! Was it okay to post on her comment, I only did it after the other person did.

Also, I've been on FB a week and only have 38 friends, whereas everyone else has at least 70+. I KNOW I shouldn't worry about that and normally I wouldn't care but I don't want my extended family to think I have noone to friend. It's not like I can tell them my REAL friends aren't on FB, plus I could friend friends of friends but I hate the idea of approaching strangers! Sorry about this, but I really wish I never joined FB...it's doing my head in!

by on Sep. 15, 2011 at 10:08 AM
Replies (11-16):
maggiemae75
by on Sep. 15, 2011 at 11:15 AM

Thanks everyone, you've been very helpful.  I lost sight of my original reason for joining in the first place and got wrapped up in the silly stuff. I think it can be a great place, but maybe not for me right now...if my friends join, it might be fun. Thanks again, great comments from everybody.

mrsnoble2004
by ♥Arlene♥ on Sep. 15, 2011 at 12:07 PM

From what I've noticed is a Birthday Bomb tends to go off on your wall if it's your birthday. Everyone says it themselves, don't be embarrassed about liking something most people don't even pay attention to it.

goddess99
by Michelle on Sep. 15, 2011 at 8:54 PM

"it's doing my head in"  are you British? My husband is and that's what he says all the time. :) anyway Welcome to the group. I hate FB. I been on for years and have probably less that 30 friends. Couldn't care less. It's so boring! But it seems to be a free for all so post away, I don't think anyone cares.

tristansmom74
by on Sep. 15, 2011 at 9:00 PM

 Not mine!  I don't allow too much drama. And I try to never post anyting that I wouldn't want every single person in my family to read.   I had one "friend" that was posting some seriously fulgar pictures and making major drama posts so I just deleted.  Pretty easy.

FB can be whatever you want it to be. Sorry you can't get your closer friends to join.

Quoting buella:

 imo fb is 100% drama at any given time.

Quoting splatz:

Its just FB.. I wouldn't stress much. And honestly I don't think there is ANY form of etiquette on there! ;)

And I see no problem in replying to her comment.

 

 

jltplk25
by Gold Member on Sep. 15, 2011 at 10:51 PM
I have 300... They're comprised of my friends from cm, family, old classmates, and people I've met while dh was in the army.

I don't think there's fb etiquette... So no worries!
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mom2gr8tgirls
by Gold Member on Sep. 16, 2011 at 8:24 AM
Agree entirely.

And hello and welcome!


Quoting splatz:

Its just FB.. I wouldn't stress much. And honestly I don't think there is ANY form of etiquette on there! ;)



And I see no problem in replying to her comment.

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