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Do you spank?!

Posted by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 9:54 AM
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 Over the weekend I went to coffee with a couple friends and the topic of discipline came up. I spank, always have. But my friend doesn't.

I am at a turning point with my 3 yo dd and it is very frustrating. She is defiant, does what she wants, screams, fights, yells.... she is over all a giant pain in the butt!! And spanking her doesn't seem to make any sort of difference. So I started to pick my friends brain -how do you NOT spank?? How can you fight the frustration and anger?? What are the alternatives. (I'm not stupid, I know about time outs and stuff... just wanted more ideas).

Anyways, we are going on day 4 without spanking and I seem to have a more compliant dd. We are still having issues, but are finding common ground and I don't feel like I have to spank my daughter every 5 minutes!

So what do you do?? How do you discipline your child and do you think it's effective?

M2mMelissa

by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 9:54 AM
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buella
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 10:18 AM

 we do spank but as a last resort.

 

bugayfamilyof4
by Member on Sep. 20, 2011 at 10:30 AM

You should read Raising Godly Tomatoes it has changed my life !!! Seriously my relation ship with my three children is so much better they are a 1000 times better behaved and I feel like I am in control of my anger toward them for being so defiant. They are happier and so are my husband and I.

sweetmissy_05
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 10:32 AM

Only if I have to....

USAFamily
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 10:33 AM

 Thank you for the reccomend! I think I am going to start 'Boundries with Kids' by Cloud and Townsend. I'm not big on parenting books, but they can't hurt!

Quoting bugayfamilyof4:

You should read Raising Godly Tomatoes it has changed my life !!! Seriously my relation ship with my three children is so much better they are a 1000 times better behaved and I feel like I am in control of my anger toward them for being so defiant. They are happier and so are my husband and I.

 

MommyWeston
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 10:48 AM


Quoting buella:

 we do spank but as a last resort.

 


jltplk25
by Gold Member on Sep. 20, 2011 at 11:15 AM
Last resort here too. Tim's quick to spank which always pisses me off. With Landon it depends on what he's done. I usually send him to the corner or take toys away. Lexi is at that age where if you hit she thinks it's okay to hit back so I am adamant about not spanking her.

We have some leftover coins from vbs and I'm thinking of using those some how.
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Flaca43
by Bronze Member on Sep. 20, 2011 at 11:18 AM
I have done the counting...I learned this technique from the book, 1 2 3 Magic...can't remember the author though.
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goddess99
by Michelle on Sep. 20, 2011 at 11:45 AM

My dd is older, I don't spank. I take things away.

BeachMama05
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 12:23 PM

 absolulty not.

how can you teach a child not to hit when your hitting them?

and how can you physically hurt someone you love so much?

 

goddess99
by Michelle on Sep. 20, 2011 at 12:27 PM

I agree

Quoting BeachMama05:

 absolulty not.

how can you teach a child not to hit when your hitting them?

and how can you physically hurt someone you love so much?

 


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