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if you could change one thing about your parenting style...

Posted by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 1:31 PM
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Even if it was hard to do, what would you change if you really wanted to become a better mom?

 

by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 1:31 PM
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xavierlogan09
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 1:36 PM

My patience. I am trying really hard to be more patient with my almost 2 year old son. I have always been an impatient person. It was easier to be patient when he was little. I feel so guilty for being impatient. So everyday when I wake up I think of how I can be a better mommy by being more patient.

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jltplk25
by Gold Member on Sep. 20, 2011 at 1:41 PM
I dont have one thing.... Lol. Patience is the biggest one though.
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LindaClement
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 1:46 PM

I'd take a copy of Unconditional Parenting back in time...

I spent far too much of my time thinking the wrong way about my kids... 

fourkidssoon
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:05 PM

what does unconditioning parenting mean?

 

goddess99
by Michelle on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:06 PM

I might work on my patience as well..

Pammi86
by Pamela on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:17 PM

 I wish I could have breastfed, but due to health reasons I couldn't. I feel my daughters acid reflux issues are worsened bc the fact that I can't. So, next time around I hope to do so and stick to it!

pooh2you
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:24 PM

 this will sound crazy but there is nothing i would change i love how i raise them

LindaClement
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:47 PM

It's the title of a book, by Alfie Kohn.

It is about why children are not here for parents to control, and why the goal of 'controlling kids' is not only misguided, but impossible. It is, like everything else he writes, supported by about 20 pages of research references, and very intelligently argued.

His main point is that children require little more than unconditional love, and that anything that damages a child's connection to her parents will create a whole lot more problems than whatever ...spanking, threatening, bribery, withdrawl of affection... was designed to control.

He makes a couple of quick remarks that I particularly love:

'If you expected childrearing to be convenient, you should have bought a goldfish.'

and

'Sure, time outs are better than spankings, but spankings are better than shootings... how is that an argument in favour of spanking?'

Quoting fourkidssoon:

what does unconditioning parenting mean?



PEEK05
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:48 PM

More patience

mrsnoble2004
by on Sep. 20, 2011 at 2:55 PM

I consider myself pretty patient. If I could go back I would teach them to pick up after themselves at an earlier age.

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