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On a scale of 1-10, ten being the highest, how important is sex in a marriage? In your opinion?
The cliched joke about marriage is that by the time a couple has been married a few years, they are never having sex. Sometimes it's true (hey, it's a cliche for a reason ...), but many other times, it isn't. But either way, the frequency of sex isn't necessarily the clincher for a good marriage.
It would be easy enough to say: If you aren't having sex X number of times per week (once? Twice?), then you have a bad marriage. But things aren't that simple. Intimacy exists without sex and sex exists without intimacy, and a couple who has oodles of sex can divorce just as likely as one who has almost none.
This isn't to say that sex doesn't matter, but it really shouldn't be the be all, end all to the relationship. Shocking as it may seem, sex will not make or break a marriage. But these things will:
Sex matters, of course. And certainly having mismatched sex drives is a huge problem for any couple. But it isn't the only path to intimacy and to a strong marriage, and so many people mistake sex for intimacy. A strong marriage needs both.