As a mom; do you think about your own mortality? Are you planning special things for your kids for after you're gone?
After giving birth to my oldest child (now age 15), I started thinking about my own mortality and what would happen to my son (and future children). With each consecutive birth, I thought about it more and more. I lost my Dad to Cancer this summer just seven weeks after his diagnosis. That really got me to thinking, and appearantly got the kids thinking too. They actually started talking about what items of mine they wanted when I pass away. The ONLY thing they argued over was (get this...) my recipes. I was absolutely speechless. I actually didn't think anything of it, in fact, we all giggled with the conversation. :) So, that night, after the kids went to bed, I started copying down my recipes two more times. Yeah, I could just photocopy them, but it's not the same as having mom's writing. It's a long process and I'm still working on it when they're not around. I don't want any arguing when I leave this world, and I don't want two of the kids to have to "settle" for photocopies. It's just not as personal.
This converstaion actually got me thinking even more, and I think I've come up with a plan. I have purchased 3 big Rubbermaid bins. Each bin will have a child's name on it. The recipes will go in there. (I've decided dd, now age 11) will get my original recipes that are actually in my cabinet, my two boys will get the ones I'm in the process of writing down now.) I've also decided to take it one step further. We have special books that we read when they were younger (and I still continue to read to my two younger ones... just longer books now a few chapters a night). I don't want them to have to divy the books out. I am purchasing 2 copies each of our most treasured stories so each kid will get a set of our favorites. (I'm getting hardback whenever possible, so they'll stand the test of time better.) More than likely youngest ds (now age 9) will end up with my original copies that we actually read from since he is an avid reader (well, dd is too, but she's getting my original recipes ;) )
These are just a couple of my ideas, for examples. When my kids are all grown up, if I'm still here, they will receive their bins from me personally. If I'm not here to see that day, they will get them when I pass away. Either way, I hope they hold on to those things and treasure them, and make good use of them with their own families. The things that will be in their bins will have very special meaning, and I hope they make as many memories as I have and more :)
I'm divorced mommy of three and there are no "baby daddies". I'm a staunch right wing republican and a professional cosmetologist (hair, nails, makeup etc) working my tail off to make my own way in this world. I breastfed my kids and rewarded myself with a boob job to put back what the breastfeeding fairy took away. I believe in tough love, rules, boundaries, discipline and follow through. My kids do not rule the roost. They say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes please and no thank you. Because of the values and respect that I've taught them, other people don't mind being around them. I spanked my kids just like my mom spanked me and we've all turned out fine. We're a hard playin', fun lovin' family. This is me, take it or leave it.