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I'm super excited but feel a little guilty too! (A little long)

Posted by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:24 PM
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First, a little back story. I have a niece who is 6. Her "Mom" left her a couple of years ago and my niece is lucky if she talkes to her on the phone once every couple of months. Her Dad has been in jail a couple of times and thinks dealing drugs is a good way to make money. They live with my MIL who helps raise my niece which is great, but she goes from wanting to have everything to do with my niece to nothing. My DH and I have made it completely clear to EVERYONE that if something happens to her Dad (jail, etc.) that we will raise her... as her "Mom" and Grandma have both made comments at times that they "don't want her". Which I have to say I really don't get why!!! She is the sweetest, smartest little thing!

So, my niece LOVES Big Time Rush. And they did a concert here over the summer that her Dad said he would take her to. Well, the line for tickets was "to long" so he didn't even try to get the tickets. She was devistated. It broke my heart to see her fight back the tears when he told her they weren't going. Anyway, Big Time Rush is coming back in February (her birthday is also that month) and I bought tickets to take her. My plan is to give them to her for Christmas (I will keep them though cuz I can just see them getting lost or her Dad selling them for money). And on her birthday which is just a 10 days before the concert I was just going to give her a card and tell her I will buy her something at the concert.

Now I'm starting to feel a little guilty. I know she will love the gift. But I feel like I should give her more. She doesn't get much from anyone else in her family. And at 6 even though she will be excited about the concert that will wear off quickly and I don't want her to feel bad when she doesn't have anything else to open both on Christmas and her birthday. Am I thinking to much into it? Or should I get something else even if it's small? I should say I spent almost $100 on the tickets. And the night of the concert if we don't go to dinner I'm sure I will at the very least buy drinks when we are there which is another expence. Plus gas to get there (it's at least 45min. away). An older kid may get how expensive a gift like this actually costs but at 6 I know she doesn't have a clue. I just feel like she is one of my kids and that I am ripping her off by only getting her the tickets and a t-shirt or something at the concert. If I don't get her anything else maybe I should at least get her something from my kids?

Thanks for reading!

by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:24 PM
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by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:28 PM

 I think you are a very kind and generous aunt.  I think what you got her is icing on the cake.  Your love IS the cake.  I really hope if there's one thing to learn in life, it's selflessness and love from people like you.  God bless you and hugs to you all!!

by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:31 PM
I'd probably buy her a couple of little gifts. Just small, inexpensive stuff so she has something to open.

Ps...You are an awesome auntie!
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by Michelle on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:35 PM

I might try to get her another small thing or like you said from the kids.

by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:41 PM

What a great Aunt!  Sometimes when a child does not receive a lot of gifts and we shower them in gifts they will feel overwhelmed and may not know how to react.  Remember you have to top this gift next year. :)

Honestly I think you will give her experience she will never forget.  Maybe make a coupon for the tickets, dinner, drinks and gift from the show. Or you could wrap the coupons up in little boxes and give them to here and do a shirt size box for the tickets. 

by Sarah on Nov. 29, 2011 at 12:51 PM
Maybe just a few little things to open. Like her favorite candy bar, hair pretties, etc. Just because its fun to open something!
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by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 1:12 PM

Thank you for all of your help ladies!!!

by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 2:00 PM

You remind me of my Aunt =)

by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 2:24 PM

i would definitely get her something doesn't have to be much...maybe $10 worth?like for instance my daughter(4yrs)goes nuts if i get her anything from the $1-3 isle at target(i just got her a big soft flower bracelet thing on the way home from the doc's for a buck)right now they have little christmas stuffed animals and other christmas stuff.they also have these really cute hello kitty hair accessories(like barrettes,headbands,bows, hair ties,princess crowns ect)that's what we are going to do for stocking stuffers but some things there are decent sized toys.i mean you can get a firetruck about the size of a loaf of bread for $3(totally getting that and a huge slinky for my 2yr old son btw)there are also character socks and gloves,books and coloring books,cookies and candy...just a whole mess of stuff all 3 bucks or less.

we are going to spend 10 bucks per older kid and 5bucks each for the twins for stocking stuffers and toys from that isle in can find the same kind of things from any 99cent store.its inexpensive and the kids always love least that way your niece will have something to open and keep on christmas and your wallet wont feel the pain.

i think your are being a lovely aunt and she is lucky to have you in her corner.good luck!

by on Nov. 29, 2011 at 2:33 PM

You could get her a couple little nail polishes or chapsticks or pretty barrettes.

You are a great aunt!!!

by Sarah on Nov. 29, 2011 at 2:40 PM
I bet she would love nail polish. Especially if you promise to paint her nails. Girly time is always fun. :)

Quoting MissyB1011:

You could get her a couple little nail polishes or chapsticks or pretty barrettes.

You are a great aunt!!!

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