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Frustrated to the point of tears. Doctors don't give a crap!

Posted by on Dec. 5, 2011 at 8:51 PM
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As many of you know, I had surgery on Friday morning.  When I was released, I was given a list of reasons to call my doc's answering service and/or go to the e.r.   Saturday, my top incision was BRIGHT red and I was in EXCRUTIATING pain, the "pain med" he prescribed for me was NOT working AT ALL.  So I called the answering service, to ask the nurse about the incision (I was worried about infection).  I couldn't speak really loudly, but loud enough that any normal person would have been able to understand me just fine.  She interrupted me to ask me to speak up because she was in a noisy restaurant. :O  EXCUSE ME??  She needed to go to a quieter part of the restaurant or step outside.  When she's on call, and getting paid for it, that needs to be her first priority.  When she finally understood what I was telling her, she got a pissy tone in her voice asking if it smelled bad, if it was oozing.  I said no.  She said that there was nothing to worry about, and hung up.  :(  I didn't even get to ask her about the pain med.

Yesterday, the pain was still pretty bad, pain meds still weren't working, so I called the answering service again.  When I discovered that the same nurse was on call, I started crying and said "forget it".  I looked up the med online and it is nothing more than an anti-inflamatory most commonly prescribed for menstrual cramps.  :O  WTF???!!!!  Like that's going to take care of surgical pain??!!!  Gimme a break!!!  *side note: I asked specifically to NOT be put on Percoset (sp?) because I was on it one other time and I HATED it.  I don't remember the five days I was on it, and appearantly I became violent while I was on it, and I don't remember it.* 

Anyway, I went to the e.r..  I explained my pain to the nurse, and the doc started me on iv fluids.... SIGHT UNSEEN.   I was asking what that was being used for, and the tech said to hydrate me because I might be dehydrated.  I said I'm not dehydrated, I'm drinking and peeing just fine.They kept trying to push meds in me too... the same one doc prescribed that didn't work.  Nurse said "they'll go in faster with the iv".  I looked at her and said "who cares if it goes in faster if it doesn't work?"  They kept arguing with me, and trying to get it put into my iv. *Mind you this is ALL BEFORE a blood test or UA*  Two hours later they FINALLY took me off the damn thing because I got to the point of getting rather bitchy.  Here's the kicker, I had to have a ct scan, the ct tech was in my room beside me going over what to expect with it, and talking about the dye they'll be putting in my iv.  As she's talking the RN is taking my iv out.  I asked her what she was doing, and she said she had the order to remove it.  I blatantly told her that no she didn't, and can she not hear the ct tech on the other side of the gurney?  So they had to poke me AGAIN to put in YET ANOTHER iv.  *I've had enough of needles at this point*

My problem with all of this is a total LACK of communication.  The doctor should be asking me questions BEFORE he orders a bunch of crap.  He didn't even come into the room before ordering this crap.  He didn't know a damn thing other than I had abdominal and chest pains (which never made it to the reports) and that I had surgery 2 days previous.  That's it.  Nothing else. 

I called doc's office today, and he had the nerve to tell me he prescribed what he did because I specifically asked for no narcotics.  I said NO, I asked to not have PERCOSET.  I said, I have never had any other narcotic.  I had percoset ONCE after a previous surgery and that's the one and only time I've EVER had one.  So I knew I didn't want THAT one.  He actually DEFENDED HIS NURSE!  Then he defended the er doc saying that I just made my case worse because I went to the er.  That I should have just talked to his nurse and I wouldn't have gotten upset.  I'm sorry, but NO.  I didn't want to talk to her again AT ALL.  I might interrupt sex this time or something. *rolling eyes*

So I'm going over my er papers today only to find out that they did in fact push in that damn anti-inflamatory that I specifically asked not to get.  I don't like taking meds anyway, for me that's a DEAD LAST resort.  I don't want that crap in my body if I don't absolutely NEED it.  I obviously don't want a med pushed on me if I already know from experience that it doesn't work.  It's not necessary.  I will be going to the hospital tomorrow, along with my er paperwork, and filing a formal complaint.  I am also currently looking for a different OB/GYN in a different office to do my post op appointment for me.  I'm fed up.  Literally in tears knowing that not only was I not asked any questions about my symptoms before any treatments were ordered, but also now knowing that I was given drugs that I refused MULTIPLE times. 

I'm divorced mommy of three and there are no "baby daddies". I'm a staunch right wing republican and a professional cosmetologist (hair, nails, makeup etc) working my tail off to make my own way in this world. I breastfed my kids and rewarded myself with a boob job to put back what the breastfeeding fairy took away. I believe in tough love, rules, boundaries, discipline and follow through. My kids do not rule the roost. They say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes please and no thank you. Because of the values and respect that I've taught them, other people don't mind being around them. I spanked my kids just like my mom spanked me and we've all turned out fine. We're a hard playin', fun lovin' family. This is me, take it or leave it.

by on Dec. 5, 2011 at 8:51 PM
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jmerg563
by on Dec. 5, 2011 at 8:56 PM
=( I am so sorry. I don't have anything to say other than I hope you find someone else and that you heal soon. *hugs*
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Pammi86
by Pamela on Dec. 5, 2011 at 9:00 PM
What kind of surgery did you have? I understand filing the complaint. I had a nurse in the er put meds through my iv when I was pregnant even though I said no! Her response was relax I'm not harming your baby or trying to make you miscarry! I was beyond pissed. Hospitals do as they please!
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praisinghim2day
by on Dec. 5, 2011 at 9:35 PM

I had an endometrial ablation and tubal ligation.  :O  I am so sorry they pushed meds in you. :(  Why do they do that???  Sure, there are some people who don't care what goes in their bodies, but you and I obviously do.  I wish the communication was more of a priority with these so-called "professionals".  In my line of work, I have to do a complete consultation each and every time... and that's just for HAIR?!  Why don't we hold our doctors and nurses that that same standard? 

*side note: in my state, it actually requires more clock hours of schooling to become a cosmetologist (hair stylist) than it does to become a nurse!  SERIOUSLY.  What is wrong with this picture??

Quoting Pammi86:

What kind of surgery did you have? I understand filing the complaint. I had a nurse in the er put meds through my iv when I was pregnant even though I said no! Her response was relax I'm not harming your baby or trying to make you miscarry! I was beyond pissed. Hospitals do as they please!


I'm divorced mommy of three and there are no "baby daddies". I'm a staunch right wing republican and a professional cosmetologist (hair, nails, makeup etc) working my tail off to make my own way in this world. I breastfed my kids and rewarded myself with a boob job to put back what the breastfeeding fairy took away. I believe in tough love, rules, boundaries, discipline and follow through. My kids do not rule the roost. They say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes please and no thank you. Because of the values and respect that I've taught them, other people don't mind being around them. I spanked my kids just like my mom spanked me and we've all turned out fine. We're a hard playin', fun lovin' family. This is me, take it or leave it.

goddess99
by Michelle on Dec. 5, 2011 at 10:16 PM

I hope you find a different ob/gyn, who will listen.

mrsnoble2004
by on Dec. 5, 2011 at 10:40 PM

Sorry you are still having problems

splatz
by Sarah on Dec. 5, 2011 at 11:05 PM
Yikes.. GL!
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Pammi86
by Pamela on Dec. 6, 2011 at 12:47 AM
That's insane! And yeah when I was pregnant and had migraines I even refused to take tylenol! My dr was like I got you who refuses to take anything and then another pregnant lady who's smoking weed! The world is a crazy place. After my c section the only meds I agreed to were a laxative lol and the pain med which is also in the epi. I had a nurse who actually listened to my needs and did research to find this med for me when everyone else was pushing morphine! And the only reason I had a epi was due to my c section!


Quoting praisinghim2day:

I had an endometrial ablation and tubal ligation.  :O  I am so sorry they pushed meds in you. :(  Why do they do that???  Sure, there are some people who don't care what goes in their bodies, but you and I obviously do.  I wish the communication was more of a priority with these so-called "professionals".  In my line of work, I have to do a complete consultation each and every time... and that's just for HAIR?!  Why don't we hold our doctors and nurses that that same standard? 


*side note: in my state, it actually requires more clock hours of schooling to become a cosmetologist (hair stylist) than it does to become a nurse!  SERIOUSLY.  What is wrong with this picture??


Quoting Pammi86:

What kind of surgery did you have? I understand filing the complaint. I had a nurse in the er put meds through my iv when I was pregnant even though I said no! Her response was relax I'm not harming your baby or trying to make you miscarry! I was beyond pissed. Hospitals do as they please!



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krickette
by on Dec. 6, 2011 at 10:04 AM

Yes that is the best thing you can do is my a report of all that went on and turn it over to the hospital also make sure you keep a set for your self and if the give you anything make copys so you can send to medicail board if need be

delanna6two
by Platinum Member on Dec. 6, 2011 at 10:09 AM

Sorry you had to go through this...I do hope you can find better health care/drs.

jessedark
by on Dec. 6, 2011 at 4:43 PM

Whoa, that sucked.Luckily I've not needed surgery but I've definitely been sick enough to be on meds and I hate them.I was misdiagnosed and they put me on a drug called Amitriptaline(sp).God that was bad.5 milgrams of this shit nearly put me in a coma.They wanted me on 25 milg. a day.Needless to say I took myself off the meds and was ragged out about it  from everyone.Some doctors are great.Some are just assholes wanting a big check and a nice set of golf clubs!

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