Would you tell the parents what their 19 year old daughter is doing?
friend of my DD does not get along with her parents and has confided in
me that she is doing something that I disagree with on so many levels.
She (19 yrs old) is aware that her parents would not approve of her
dating a 15 year old boy so she is deliberately withholding his age and
other information from them. Her parents are pretty uninvolved in her
life but I know they would not approve of this relationship.
My dilemma is that I know that if and when they decide to become physical, this girl can get in a heck of a lot of trouble with the law. She knows what she is doing is wrong but continues to do it. I have talked to her about the consequences of her being an adult and dating a minor, but she is sure this boy is "THE ONE" as he "understands her and they have SOOO much in common." *gag/sigh
do not know her parents well and really do not want to talk with them. I
also do not want to lose the girl's trust as she does not have many
adults in her life but I feel her parents really need to know what their
daughter is doing. I am having a very difficult time feeling good about
keeping her secret and it is becoming MY burden, which really has
nothing to do with me or my family. Afterall, she is NOT my daughter!!
If you were in my shoes:
1) Would you tell her parents what their daughter is doing?
2)How would you tell them? Would you send them an anonymous note? ( repeat, I DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO THEM)
3)If it were your daughter, would you want someone to tell you what she was doing?
EDIT: I do not know the boy or his family. The boy's parents do not know about the girl friend as he is not yet allowed to date.