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What The F***

Posted by on Dec. 31, 2011 at 8:24 PM
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Today I went through my fiance's phone and found a picture of my sisters boobs on his phone. I was pissed and flipped out. I know for a fact that she didn't send it to him. He took the video from my phone, sent it to himself and took a screenshot of where she flashes her boobs. I asked him why he has it. At first he tried blaming me and saying that I wasn't nice to him when I was pregnant and after and that I drove him to do it. He said I didn't give him the nice experience of pregnancy because I was always mad at him. I was mad at him because he talked to two different girls during my pregnancy and then he talked to another one after. He then said he had it because he wanted to see what her nipples look like. Im so freaking mad. My plan is to wait till February when he gets his taxes, take half and leave his ass. Do you think that's a good plan? We do have a baby together. He says if I leave he going to take me to court for full custody of our child. I want joint but he don't want that. He says that he will win because he going to tell them how my mom and sister was with my first child, and that I will lose both kids. If he does that im going to tell them that my sister was only 16 when that video was taken. He's 24 now. Sorry just had to vent. Any advice would be welcomed. I went through his phone because he said that he had deleted the stuff from his single days. I didn't think he did, I was right he didn't, so I deleted it for him.

by on Dec. 31, 2011 at 8:24 PM
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mimi0328
by on Dec. 31, 2011 at 8:30 PM

ummm wow girl i am so sry...while ou are waiting for taxes play nice like everything is fine and have a consultation with an attorney a lot of places offer free ones and build a cas against if he tries to get custody of your LO.  the whole thing about your sister being a minor is a good thing...but what did your mom and sister do with your first?  is it bad that he could use aganst you ?  hmm.....how did he tape your sister boobs from his phone? f your sister is a minor that means he is a creep too!  im so sry you are going through this. 

candimalice
by on Dec. 31, 2011 at 8:34 PM
Wow... sorry hun id be so hurt and mad its not funny, plus id never again feel comfy with him and my sister in the same room. I mean there is porno alllll over thee net, why did it need to be your sisters boobs on his phone? I don't have any advice sorry, but I think u have every right to be as upset as you are! >>>hugs<<
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Pammi86
by Pamela on Dec. 31, 2011 at 10:31 PM
I would leave now. Sorry your going through this.
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Mrs.Kg8500
by on Dec. 31, 2011 at 10:33 PM



Quoting Pammi86:

I would leave now. Sorry your going through this.

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delanna6two
by Platinum Member on Jan. 1, 2012 at 10:18 AM

Hope you get things worked out...

splatz
by Sarah on Jan. 1, 2012 at 10:54 AM
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I find it strange that you had a video of your sisters boobs on your phone... But.. In child custody cases it is VERY rare that they would take a child from their mother. My ex tried the same thing. And guess what.. I got full custody. He only got visitation.
It sounds like he is trying to put all the blame on you. But really, there is no excuse for what he did.
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goddess99
by Michelle on Jan. 1, 2012 at 3:14 PM

I wouldn't wait. You're not married. You have no legal rights to his tax money. You just need to go for child support, through the court system.

tatia90
by on Jan. 1, 2012 at 3:21 PM
It started off as an interview between my 2 sisters and I was recording, then she flashed her boobs. It's the only nice memory I have of my sister's. We don't get along to well. They taught her how to smoke cigarettes, pack them, light them, bang beer glasses together, not buckle her in her car seat, and taught her to cuss. He took it from my phone without asking.


Quoting mimi0328:

ummm wow girl i am so sry...while ou are waiting for taxes play nice like everything is fine and have a consultation with an attorney a lot of places offer free ones and build a cas against if he tries to get custody of your LO.  the whole thing about your sister being a minor is a good thing...but what did your mom and sister do with your first?  is it bad that he could use aganst you ?  hmm.....how did he tape your sister boobs from his phone? f your sister is a minor that means he is a creep too!  im so sry you are going through this. 


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sabbycat69
by on Jan. 1, 2012 at 4:06 PM

Well you won't be able to take any of his money, because you and him are not married. All you can do is try and get child support, that is about it.

coolbreeze0717
by on Jan. 1, 2012 at 4:12 PM
Yes, have a free consultation with a lawyer, get all your ducks in a row before you leave. Don't worry too much about his threat. You'll get custody esp if your child is a baby. What nerve he has blaming his behavior on you. That's pretty scuzzy.
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