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Of All the Things I DIDN'T Need Right Now...

DH has bought "me" a 56 gallon column aquarium and began filling it with tropical community fish that he knows I like.

IT'S SO SWEET!  I mean, he got himself a few favorites, like an eel and loaches, but the fish fish are supposed to be mine.

But I have this horrible feeling in my gut.  I'm 7 months pregnant, this tank on the stand is as tall as me, and it does require care from time to time!  (Such as the crazy eel uprooting all my plants!)  He swears he'll tend to it, keep it clean, change the water, handle all the maintenance, all I need to do is feed the fish and enjoy.  But...this wouldn't be the first time he's promised to do the work and then left it all to me.

I love the tank.  It's beautiful and he set it up so I can watch the fish while I breastfeed the baby.  I wish I could stop looking the gift horse in the mouth, but I just don't know how I'll handle it on top of everything else when the new baby gets here.  I already have to care for 2 great dane/mastiff mix dogs that he couldn't live without and now pets about once a month.  (At least now that they are trained they are lower maintenance.)  And our 3 year old son, that DH adores but only wants to play with and I'm supposed to handle ALL ELSE.  (Not that a child is a "pet" but DS is a responsibility I thought I would have more help with early on.)

I guess he started talking about getting me a tank a few months ago, and I would smile and say "Well, after things settle down with the new baby that will be awesome!" or "I would love an aquarium!  Let's get one this summer, after the new baby is born and I can work out a routine!"

Oh, I love DH.  But when it comes to pets he's like that kid who has to have something, then never lifts a finger again.  I'm hoping that since we got him that eel he'll be more invested in it.  We've spent the past 5 nights watching the aquarium plants and waiting for the water to be ready to add fish.  I mean, literally just watching air bubbles and plants!  Last night was the first night we had the eel and some guppies, and we just watched them for hours.  Maybe he really is turning over a new leaf and will keep up with it for me...

Wish me luck!  If it goes well, I plan to add some dwarf powder blue gouramis and some angel fish!  If it doesn't go well I'm tossing in some goldfish and a couple of algea eaters.

by on Jan. 3, 2012 at 11:07 AM
Replies (11-16):
OliviasMommy611
by on Jan. 3, 2012 at 12:44 PM
Good luck!
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mom2gr8tgirls
by on Jan. 3, 2012 at 1:19 PM
I want a salt water tank sooo bad...but I just can't take that big of a commitment on right now. Good luck!!
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mrsnoble2004
by ♥Arlene♥ on Jan. 3, 2012 at 9:24 PM

Shrimp help clean the tank

haydensmom4610
by on Jan. 3, 2012 at 9:33 PM

How much care do they actually need? I'm not bashing at all, I've always wanted one :)

Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Bronze Member on Jan. 4, 2012 at 12:35 AM

The amount of care is really going to depend on the type of fish.  And while they don't need care too often (about once a month) that care is a chore.  Since we're doing tropical community fish, we need to vacuum the gravel, change 25% of the water, and once the water is change you have to test it.  You have to monitor the fish for fin rot, ich, etc.  So it's a bit of small things with one big monthly chore.  Totally doable for most people, actually.  Just didn't want to try and fit it all in right next to the new baby care.  lol

Quoting haydensmom4610:

How much care do they actually need? I'm not bashing at all, I've always wanted one :)


4kidz916
by on Jan. 4, 2012 at 8:55 AM

I love to watch fish in an aquarium so I hope he will help out with all the care of it.

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