I posted this in another forum but thought I'd post it here as well.
Back story: I had my DS when I was 19... BD and I broke up when DS was 3 months old. BD took me to court for joint custody when DS was 10 months old. I won sole legal and physical custody and he was allowed supervised visits twice a week... he was very inconsistant with his visits... only coming about once a month, month and a half. I met and started dating my now husband when my son was about a year and a half. DS started calling DH "dad" when he was about 3 (about the same time BD completely left). He calls DH by his real name about 15% of the time and "Dad" the rest of the time. When someone asks who his dad is he always says my DH. He was 4 when we got married and is going to be 10 next month. I don't don't think he still understands the dynamic of their relationship. I've never talked to him about his BD... I'm just curious at what age I should bring it up, or wait til he has questions, but what if he never brings it up? I just don't want him to be a teenager and resent me or DH for never talking to him about this... any other mom's have any experience with this? I always promote honesty and talking things out but it seems like such a wierd thing to bring up randomly. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.