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I'm Forcing Myself To Love My Husband.....

Posted by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:12 PM
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My husband was only meant to be a rebound.

((3 YEARS AGO...))
I was never really attracted to him.
I needed a home and I didnt want to be lonely.
I moved in with him 2 weeks after having met him. 
I was going to leave him about 3 months after i moved in with him, but...

Ifound out I was pregnant.
So i stayed.

He loves me very much.
He has moved 3 states away so i could have my family close to me.
He supports our family.
He's an amazing father.

I'm forcing myself to find the good in him,
to love him like he loves me,
to be kind and caring and affectionate with him,
to be the wife he deserves.

I'm not attracted to him at all,
I just can't be affectionate toward him,
we havent made love in over 1 year.

He's hurting and so am I.

But we refuse to quit,
I refuse to be another statistic,
I won't do this to my son,
I won't have a broken family..........

Any suggestions? Please be gentle.......

by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:12 PM
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mrs_smiph
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:16 PM
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Rather than love, force yourself to respect him.  Men respond to respect more so than love.  

tiffstud
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:20 PM
Therapy. My brother was trying to force himself to stay with his wife for the kids and they tried therapy. If she would have shown him respect like pp said they would still be together and happy. But he worked three jobs while she stayed home (their kids both school aged) and she never even gave him a thank you or anything like that.
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MomConfession
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:29 PM


Quoting tiffstud:

Therapy. My brother was trying to force himself to stay with his wife for the kids and they tried therapy. If she would have shown him respect like pp said they would still be together and happy. But he worked three jobs while she stayed home (their kids both school aged) and she never even gave him a thank you or anything like that.


I agree with you..we're defenitely going to try therapy.. and i admit i do get lost behind my wall of resentment, so i need to make a better effort to come out from behind my wall and give him the respect and appreciation he needs...thank you

 

OliviasMommy611
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:44 PM
Very true.

Quoting mrs_smiph:

Rather than love, force yourself to respect him.  Men respond to respect more so than love.  

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tiffstud
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:46 PM
You have to make the best of every situation. Read that sentence. It starts with YOU!!! I have noticed (for the most part) the happier I am, the happier dh is.
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tiffstud
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:46 PM
You have to make the best of every situation. Read that sentence. It starts with YOU!!! I have noticed (for the most part) the happier I am, the happier dh is.
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mom2bell
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:50 PM
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Have a glass of wine and then jump him when he gets home!  

BTW...good for you for sticking with it, but do it where it is good, healthy and happy for both of you!  

MomConfession
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 6:10 PM
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Quoting mom2bell:

Have a glass of wine and then jump him when he gets home!  

BTW...good for you for sticking with it, but do it where it is good, healthy and happy for both of you!  


Maybe a bottle...... lol

goddess99
by Michelle on Jan. 20, 2012 at 7:53 PM

you need to bite the bullet and start having sex.

snuggiewoogie
by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 8:12 PM

 Aww I hope things get better for you'all.

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