My husband was only meant to be a rebound.
((3 YEARS AGO...))
I was never really attracted to him.
I needed a home and I didnt want to be lonely.
I moved in with him 2 weeks after having met him.
I was going to leave him about 3 months after i moved in with him, but...
Ifound out I was pregnant.
So i stayed.
He loves me very much.
He has moved 3 states away so i could have my family close to me.
He supports our family.
He's an amazing father.
I'm forcing myself to find the good in him,
to love him like he loves me,
to be kind and caring and affectionate with him,
to be the wife he deserves.
I'm not attracted to him at all,
I just can't be affectionate toward him,
we havent made love in over 1 year.
He's hurting and so am I.
But we refuse to quit,
I refuse to be another statistic,
I won't do this to my son,
I won't have a broken family..........
Any suggestions? Please be gentle.......
Quoting tiffstud:
Therapy. My brother was trying to force himself to stay with his wife for the kids and they tried therapy. If she would have shown him respect like pp said they would still be together and happy. But he worked three jobs while she stayed home (their kids both school aged) and she never even gave him a thank you or anything like that.
I agree with you..we're defenitely going to try therapy.. and i admit i do get lost behind my wall of resentment, so i need to make a better effort to come out from behind my wall and give him the respect and appreciation he needs...thank you
Quoting mrs_smiph:Rather than love, force yourself to respect him. Men respond to respect more so than love.
You're a good mom!
- MomConfession
on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:12 PM