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I'm Forcing Myself To Love My Husband.....

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My husband was only meant to be a rebound.

((3 YEARS AGO...))
I was never really attracted to him.
I needed a home and I didnt want to be lonely.
I moved in with him 2 weeks after having met him. 
I was going to leave him about 3 months after i moved in with him, but...

Ifound out I was pregnant.
So i stayed.

He loves me very much.
He has moved 3 states away so i could have my family close to me.
He supports our family.
He's an amazing father.

I'm forcing myself to find the good in him,
to love him like he loves me,
to be kind and caring and affectionate with him,
to be the wife he deserves.

I'm not attracted to him at all,
I just can't be affectionate toward him,
we havent made love in over 1 year.

He's hurting and so am I.

But we refuse to quit,
I refuse to be another statistic,
I won't do this to my son,
I won't have a broken family..........

Any suggestions? Please be gentle.......

by on Jan. 20, 2012 at 5:12 PM
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by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:43 PM

just think, are you showing your son how to be strong? or that he should settle for a woman who forces herself to find the good in him. i saw my parents fight and argue and hate each other, and when i got married to my first husband that's how it was, because i thought it was normal. sure, my parents just celebrated 45 years together, but is it worth showing your children that settling is okay?

by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:07 PM
Total agree

Quoting mrs_smiph:

Rather than love, force yourself to respect him.  Men respond to respect more so than love.  

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