I have a friend who has some issues mentally. A few months ago she slit her wrist down to the bone, she is on meds and is trying to get her life under control. She has anxiety issues and has been prescribed a new medication, she felt off after taking the med and was home alone with her children she called a mutual friend who was over my house and told her she wasn't well and needed help, we both packed up our kids and headed over thinking our kids would play with her kids and we could take care of her. She was jittery and feeling sick but not acting in anyway that would disturb the kids unless she actually did pass out or vomit. So the kids went off to play in another room and we stayed with our friend, her husband came by (he works nights, it was his lunch) to drop off a refill for the old meds. She took one of those when it was time for the next dose and after a bit you could tell the difference, she was immediately much calmer and more perky. By the time we left she was herself. Well here's where the venting comes in, my stbxh usually picks up the kids Friday night and returns them Sunday morning. I had told him I was having friends over and asked him to come by a little later than usual to give the kids some time with their friends, well when my friend called for help I called him to see if he could come get the kids, he was still at work, I suggested dropping them off with his mom or my mom and he said to forget it I could just keep them for the night and he'd pick them up in the morning. Today he picks them up and asks me where they ended up staying, I said with me. He immediately gave me an attitude "oh so it's ok for you to take them with you to deal with that bullshit but I can't take them to my friends to play with her kids" he is referring to the fact that two weeks after he moved out he found a girlfriend and took the kids on a date with her - I found out through my kids. We had agreed that when we started dating we would not involve the kids until we knew the person and knew it was a serious relationship - this was his first date with her, he had met her the weekend before, so he knew her a week. When I found out she had given my dd a bath I flipped, he didn't know this person well enough to trust her around my kids. I made a point to tell him I didn't want her around them period, if he wanted to see her he could do it when the kids weren't around. He broke up with her in December when it finally dawned on him after repeatedly being told by myself and his family that what he was doing was wrong because he is a married man who isn't even legally seperated. So now here he is comparing helping a friend with taking kids to his mistress' house. I wanted to scream. I taught my kids that helping a friend in the time of need is a good thing, he was teaching them that it is ok to cheat on your wife. We try not to argue in front of the kids, we play nice in their presence but it is ok for him to give me an attitude, walk away while I am trying to talk to him and belittle me by talking down to me in front of my children. I did not stoop to his level I maintained my composure the best I could and now I am a mess - the man does not deserve any more of my tears but I just can't find any other outlet. He ruined this marriage not me, why am I the one who has to suffer for it. Sorry ladies I needed to let it out. I really thought I was at the point where his crap wouldn't bother me anymore, apparently I was wrong.