I am facing a bit of a dilema.....
About nine years ago my mom stopped talking to one of her brothers and his family over a fight over money. My cousin, his daughter,is a year younger then me and we grew up together and were very close. But after the fight me and her stopped talking as well. A couple of times throughout the years I have thought about giving her a call to re-connect, but when I bring it up to my mom she becomes livid. She says that I would be disrespecting her and how could I want to talk to her after what happened? Needless to say my mom is still very angry over the situation.
A couple of days ago I found my cousin on facebook. Her page is public and through her posts I learned that she had been through some really tough times in the past year. My heart breaks when I think of what she has gone through- no one should have to go through things like that. We were always there for each other growing up and I wish that I could be there for her now. I have also tackled some issues this past year and I think family should be there for each other. I also think that it is important for my children to know their whole family. But my mom, who is also going through some things, will not hear it. I really want to send a message on facebook and attempt to reconnect, but I also do not want to upset my mom.
So, should I or shouldn't I?