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Capturing the Elusive Date Night

Posted by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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It's a pretty rare occasion, honestly. I've heard of it happening, especially with other couples. I've heard the anticipation, the joy, the luxury, the opulence. 

I speak, OBVIOUSLY, of The Elusive Date Night.

When I say "it's a rare occasion", I may be slightly exaggerating. I've talked to some couples with kids the same ages as ours, and they claim to have not been out since the baby was born. And, seriously, I offer them my condolences.

But I also have friends - lots of them, actually - who manage to have Date Nights almost WEEKLY. If not SEVERAL TIMES A WEEK. Isn't that the most amazing thing you've ever heard? How does that HAPPEN?

(Are you one of those people? HOW DO YOU MAKE THAT HAPPEN?)

Anyway, we average one date night every six weeks or so. And because it happens so infrequently, we tend to fall into this routine: Sushi, movie, home by 11:00. Maybe 10:30. We'll sometimes swap out "movie" for "play" as we are theatre folks, but that's the routine. Always sushi, always home by 11:00. We have to pay the babysitter, after all.

This column is about slowing down to enjoy the weekends, I know. And I've tried to supply family-friendly ways to do that. But you know what? Sometimes, I need to be an adult. Who does adult things and drinks adult drinks and enjoys dinner while it's STILL WARM. I need to have a couple of hours without someone pawing at me, without hearing "MOMMA LOOK" eleventy frillion times, without having to dig out a spare band-aid/game/boogie wipe from my purse. I need that. 

(If I sound a little testy, it's because we're coming up on the six week mark.)

Aside from it being a great mental break, it's also - admittedly - nice to remember why I married the crazy man in my bed. (No, not that one. The OTHER one. The one with the wedding ring.) Granted, it's a struggle to find things to talk about outside of the kids - and I put no stock in that being an indication of a bad marriage, because if you have lunch with a coworker outside of work, what are Y'ALL gonna talk about? Work, right? It may eventually lead to a personal or general discussion, but chances are, you're focused on your common ground.

But what I'm saying here, rambling as it were, is that it's nice to sip a little sake and pretend that we don't have to get up at the crack of dawn the next morning to clean pee out of someone's bed linens.

How often do you get out for a date night? 

by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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dixiegurl223626
by New Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 8:30 AM

We dont get out as often as we should. Hubby and I should make it a point to get out more often for a date night.

Mrs.Pool2Be
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 8:31 AM

Not often at all!  :-(   My DH says that since we are married now that we aren't dating and that married couples don't "date".  I have tried to get him to see the error of his thinking but he doesn't listen to me.  We might go out just the two of us once a year, if that.

Bmat
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 8:38 AM

When the kids were small, we rarely had a date night, since we couldn't find a reliable babysitter.

Bmat
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 8:55 AM

It is important to get out, so you and he can focus on one another.  Married couple do date. My mom sometimes watched our children so that my husband and I could get out together for a weekend. We went to bed and breakfasts within driving distance and walked and held hands and ate out. It was refreshing.

Quoting Mrs.Pool2Be:

Not often at all!  :-(   My DH says that since we are married now that we aren't dating and that married couples don't "date".  I have tried to get him to see the error of his thinking but he doesn't listen to me.  We might go out just the two of us once a year, if that.


millerbunch
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:00 AM

at least once a week.. even if it's to run to the store together or grab a quick bite to eat.  so it could be a  'date-day' :)  lol

goddess99
by Michelle on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:04 AM

Never had a date night.

ceciliam
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:35 AM

Not nearly as often as people "think" we should but I'm okay with that.

gacgbaker
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:50 AM

We try for at least once a month, but our goal is to have a date once a week- even if it's a date in the house while we put the kids to bed early.  

Madelaine
by Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:53 AM

we need a date night....

lalasmama2007
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:55 AM
I've only had a date night once in the past 5 years!
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