Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom to Mom Mom to Mom

Capturing the Elusive Date Night

Posted by   + Show Post

It's a pretty rare occasion, honestly. I've heard of it happening, especially with other couples. I've heard the anticipation, the joy, the luxury, the opulence. 

I speak, OBVIOUSLY, of The Elusive Date Night.

When I say "it's a rare occasion", I may be slightly exaggerating. I've talked to some couples with kids the same ages as ours, and they claim to have not been out since the baby was born. And, seriously, I offer them my condolences.

But I also have friends - lots of them, actually - who manage to have Date Nights almost WEEKLY. If not SEVERAL TIMES A WEEK. Isn't that the most amazing thing you've ever heard? How does that HAPPEN?

(Are you one of those people? HOW DO YOU MAKE THAT HAPPEN?)

Anyway, we average one date night every six weeks or so. And because it happens so infrequently, we tend to fall into this routine: Sushi, movie, home by 11:00. Maybe 10:30. We'll sometimes swap out "movie" for "play" as we are theatre folks, but that's the routine. Always sushi, always home by 11:00. We have to pay the babysitter, after all.

This column is about slowing down to enjoy the weekends, I know. And I've tried to supply family-friendly ways to do that. But you know what? Sometimes, I need to be an adult. Who does adult things and drinks adult drinks and enjoys dinner while it's STILL WARM. I need to have a couple of hours without someone pawing at me, without hearing "MOMMA LOOK" eleventy frillion times, without having to dig out a spare band-aid/game/boogie wipe from my purse. I need that. 

(If I sound a little testy, it's because we're coming up on the six week mark.)

Aside from it being a great mental break, it's also - admittedly - nice to remember why I married the crazy man in my bed. (No, not that one. The OTHER one. The one with the wedding ring.) Granted, it's a struggle to find things to talk about outside of the kids - and I put no stock in that being an indication of a bad marriage, because if you have lunch with a coworker outside of work, what are Y'ALL gonna talk about? Work, right? It may eventually lead to a personal or general discussion, but chances are, you're focused on your common ground.

But what I'm saying here, rambling as it were, is that it's nice to sip a little sake and pretend that we don't have to get up at the crack of dawn the next morning to clean pee out of someone's bed linens.

How often do you get out for a date night? 

by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 12:00 AM
Replies (31-40):
itsblissmas
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:07 PM

 Uh, since having kids maybe twice.

 

Leelee1008
by Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:08 PM

Yeah normally we go out for dinner but we usually have the  youngest with us.

Quoting LancesMom:

Ok so maybe I do get out for dinner once in awhile. Buts its been probably 6 months! Ya unless we get a gift card, we don't seem to take the time or make the effort. We feel to guilty with the way our bill situation is!


Leelee1008
by Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:09 PM

we do this alot

Quoting millerbunch:

at least once a week.. even if it's to run to the store together or grab a quick bite to eat.  so it could be a  'date-day' :)  lol


Charizma77
by Carissa on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:49 PM
We try to go out once a month, sometimes more, sometime less. I feel it is very important for our relationship.
Rushn311
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:04 PM

Wow, once a week or more? Must be nice! Ummm we haven't since October of last year. Well we went to a banquet dinner two Sunday's ago by ourselves so I guess that was technically a date. Our friends' watched our kids. Usually my brother and SIL do. They asked us recently if they wanted them to babysit, but in July we will be on our honey for a week so I might just wait till then.

NearSeattleMom
by Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:19 PM

So rarely . . . maybe once every two months or so?  We are just ridiculously busy.

TheBabyFactory4
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 4:51 PM
Us too

Quoting Madelaine:

we need a date night....

Posted on CafeMom Mobile
TheBabyFactory4
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 4:57 PM
I don't remember the last date we've had. We have a 2 1/2 month old that I'm ebf. I only trust him with one other person than dh. That's my mom who lives 45mins away. That's too far away for us to plan a quick movie or dinner and we are too busy to plan a casino or concert night on the coast. We will try in the summer when the big kids aren't in school
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
TheBabyFactory4
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 4:57 PM
I don't remember the last date we've had. We have a 2 1/2 month old that I'm ebf. I only trust him with one other person than dh. That's my mom who lives 45mins away. That's too far away for us to plan a quick movie or dinner and we are too busy to plan a casino or concert night on the coast. We will try in the summer when the big kids aren't in school
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
TheBabyFactory4
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 4:58 PM
We've done that on his day off on Friday when big kids were at school. We went out fir my birthday but still had our infant with us

Quoting Leelee1008:

we do this alot

Quoting millerbunch:

at least once a week.. even if it's to run to the store together or grab a quick bite to eat.  so it could be a  'date-day' :)  lol


Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)