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It's easy to find fault in others, but how often do we analyze ourselves. Are there things we really want to change? (I know for me there are!) Well now's our chance!
Many of you mentioned you'd like to have more confidence. Well, as Elle Woods said "You have all the equipment...you just need to read the manual." It may be easier said than done to believe in yourself and work it, but with practice, you can do it. Here are some tips:
Others of you said you want to be more outgoing and assertive. Even if it's the scariest thing you've ever done, speak up. Join a conversation. Hold doors and smile at strangers. Talk to your hairdresser while she cuts your hair. The more you talk to people, the more outgoing you'll become. Pretty soon, you'll be joining bowling leagues and hosting dinners! And as you become more outgoing and vocal, you'll become more assertive. If you find you're having trouble speaking up for yourself, remind yourself that you're just as deserving of fair treatment as the next person. Just always remember that there's a difference between being assertive and having an attitude.
Some of you said you'd like to be less anxious and stressed. First, make a list of the things that are most stressful in your life. Second, for each item on your list, create a plan for making that thing less stressful. Them implement your plans. You don't have to set a timeline or kill yourself trying to get things under control, but knowing that you're making changes in order to reduce stress will make you feel better instantly. Keep track of your progress and check in each week or month to see how far you've come!
Being happier and more positive was another popular request. Well, here are some tips:
Finally, there were those of you who just want to be kinder people who are more understanding and don't take things so personally. Here are our best ideas for making these changes:
Smile: Did you know smiling even when you're unhappy can make you feel happier?! Really, it's true! So smile more!
Live by the golden rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
Listen: It’s easy to tune out our loved ones when life gets busy, but it's important to listen to what your partner has to say. Here are some tips for improving your listening skills:
Don't sweat the small stuff: This one's worth repeating. If someone says something nasty, remember that it's very likely they're actually upset with themselves and not you. Remind yourself that you want to be the bigger person and be positive. Then forget it and move on -- it's not worth your time or energy!
One more thing:
YOU'RE FABULOUS -- AND DON'T EVER FORGET IT!
Which of these tips will you take with you? What's the hardest thing for you to change about yourself when you try?
*This challenge is sponsored by CafeMom and is not associated with Dr. Aymee Coget of happinessmakeover.com.