Mom Happiness Makeover Day 6: Get Happier About Your Mommying
We asked you what would make you happier about your "mommying" and you told us.
Patience was by far the #1 thing you wanted to improve on. Next time your patience is being tested:
- Take a deep breath
- Don't react. Think first, then act calmly
- If you have to (and it's safe) remove yourself from the situation for a minute to calm down
Remind yourself to:
- Look at the bigger picture: In the realm of things, your kid acting up is a temporary, minor nuisance that you'll forget about in a few hours.
- Think about the why: It may be hard to do in the moment, but try to think about WHY your kid is acting up. Is he tired? Sick? Hungry? We're all cranky when we're tired, sick, or hungry -- and he's just a kid!
- Remember it's not you: Kids throw tantrums -- all kids. It's not the tantrum you'll remember, it's the way you handled it (and so will your child).
- Nip anger in the bud: Remember that the angrier you are, the more upset your kid will become -- and they might start to think that anger and aggression are good ways to deal with things.
- Miss them: Think about how you'll miss these days when they're all grown up!
Some of you said you'd like to be less anxious and stressed. We gave you these instructions yesterday, and we think they're worth repeating: First, make a list of the things that are most stressful in your life. Second, for each item on your list, create a plan for making that thing less stressful. Them implement your plans. You don't have to set a timeline or kill yourself trying to get things under control, but knowing that you're making changes in order to reduce stress will make you feel better instantly. Keep track of your progress and check in each week or month to see how far you've come!
In the meantime, take a relaxed approach: Worrying excessively will make you stressed and your kids stressed, too! We all want to protect our kids from anything and everything that could ever possibly hurt them, but the reality is, that's just not possible. Have confidence in the values you're instilling in your kids and that you're raising them to be honest, kind, and confident, and trust that because of that, they'll be ok in the world.
Start Fresh: Check out our New Year, New Mom challenge, 20 days of tips that focus on the most important parts of motherhood.
What are you most proud of when it comes to your "mommying"? Which of these tips -- or other strategies -- will you try to improve in other areas?
*This challenge is sponsored by CafeMom and is not associated with Dr. Aymee Coget of happinessmakeover.com.