my 4 year old has been afraid of her room at night for months and I keep thinking its just a phase and she'll grow out of it. It's actually gotten worse It used to be that every morning we wake up to her crawling in bed with us but now it's like every night she starts crying and wants to sleep with us. It makes us feel so bad that we let her sleep with us sometimes but I don't want this to become a habit. our sex life is disappering before our eyes we try to get creative but no where is safe because if she notices we are gone she follows. I'm getting cranky. lol I need my sexy time. we've put christmas lights in her room and she has this really cool blue light that pretty much lights up her room and we have put a tv in there so she can watch movies if she wants. I've run out of ideas and this mommy needs some quality time with her hubby any ideas?
it's a combination of things she says it's the shadows, the noises (her rooom is the closest to the street so she hears cars and anything going on outside), and the just being alone. we've done those types of things like trap the scarys and she has a lion flashlight that roars she keeps next to her bed to light up the room and scare anything away and see that it's gone. I just don't know
Maybe put up darker curtains so that it takes away the shadows.
Quoting coffeegirl2:it's a combination of things she says it's the shadows, the noises (her rooom is the closest to the street so she hears cars and anything going on outside), and the just being alone. we've done those types of things like trap the scarys and she has a lion flashlight that roars she keeps next to her bed to light up the room and scare anything away and see that it's gone. I just don't know
Well my daughter is 9 and is terrified to sleep in her own room. She thinks there are spider's in there that are gonna bite her. It is very frustrating and I'm hoping she will just grow out of this. All I can say is good luck to you try to nip it in the bud. Or your gonna end up with 9 year old in you bed like me. lol.... Best of luck!
I was thinking the same thing. They also have some curtains that are thick enough to also block out some of the sound. That might work. Also maybe try a soothing sound machine or some sort of lavender fragrance in her room to help with calming.
Quoting MistressMinerva:Maybe put up darker curtains so that it takes away the shadows.
Quoting coffeegirl2:it's a combination of things she says it's the shadows, the noises (her rooom is the closest to the street so she hears cars and anything going on outside), and the just being alone. we've done those types of things like trap the scarys and she has a lion flashlight that roars she keeps next to her bed to light up the room and scare anything away and see that it's gone. I just don't know
I think you can still get quality time with you husband this way. We have always done a family bed and it's never stopped us. Especially if she's only coming in later in the night or morning then you still have the night when you first get in bed. Then there is when you both get out of bed, shower time ;). Also, you can make time during the day, after work. Trust me, it's possible!
Her fears are normal. It's actually an evolutionary response - http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/201110/why-young-children-protest-bedtime-story-evolutionary-mismatch
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- coffeegirl2
on Jun. 11, 2012 at 4:57 PM