*UPDATE* 1st dance recital - costume is "too itchy" and awkward to take on & off... do I let her just quit? She's 4....
OK she did it!! BOTH NIGHTS!! The first time the curtains opened she looked panicked and was scanning the audience for me and didn't see me and she burst into tears and ran offstage. :( But I went backstage and calmed her and she did better on the 2nd dance and had fun. :) The 2nd night I hung out backstage with her and she did MUCH better. (That's another issue we're having lately, separation anxiety). She had a friggin' BLAST last night and was just BEAMING when she got showered with roses & bouquets of flowers from all the family. :) I am so happy for her and I'm so happy she toughed it out. There were NO complaints of itchiness EITHER NIGHT, but the costume was a bit tight when taking on & off. Hopefully if she does it next year she won't have a growth spurt between when they measure her and when we get the costumes in.
I'm by no means a "dance mom". I love to watch my girl do what she loves to do, and up until about a month ago (when she heard her cousin, who is in the class with her, decided she wanted to do tumbling more...), she loved dance. This is the first time I've ever experienced the dance world - I never danced as a kid. Well after 9 or 10 long months of Thursday night dance class, recital is finally upon us. They measured her about 2 mo ago and since then I believe she's grown. We missed ONE class and when we came back the next week some of the moms said "Wow she's really getting tall! Like even in the last 2 weeks!" Well FINALLY, last Thursday, the LAST CLASS and ONE WEEK before recital, we receive the costumes. Nice. No time for any needed alterations. Thanks. I tried it on my girl and it's a big tulle-y mess underneath, and NONE of it is reinforced with a soft material so it's not so rough on the girls' skin. My normally mild-mannered girl had a meltdown like I've never seen. It was so bad that for 2 days I didn't even bring up the dress. Finally I had to try it on her again to see where the problem areas were so I could try to fix it. She was very reluctant but got it on with a tank top underneath so it would alieve the itchiness a bit. She said it still itched, and it's pretty unbearable. It's also a *fitted* type baby doll dress, and it only will go on over her head, so that's the way it has to come off too. The waist, as we women all know, is smaller than the shoulders, and when I take it off, I get one hand out of the sleeve, and as I'm trying to get her to wiggle it down through the dress so she has room to get the other hand out, it gets tight and it's stuck on her face for a minute and she can't handle it and she FREAKS OUT. My hubby is wrapped around her finger and heard one whine and wanted to rip the damn thing off her and take her out of recital altogether, just because of that. I'm on the fence: I don't want her to be miserable, but I'm afraid I'm teaching her that quitting is just fine if things get a little tough. I want her to tough it out, but she is so young, she's 4, this is her FIRST TIME wearing something other than her comfy "Garanimals" clothes and stretchy cotton leotards. What do I do?