Need some advice on a Mom I know that IMO needs to change her ways!
Hi there. This is my first post on CafeMom but I'm at my wits end with my sister and not sure what to do next.
My sister is 25 years old and has two small children, daughter 2 years and son 3 months. She is married but her husband is in Mexico and has been, he's never seen his son. I live 2 hours away from my sister and her kids. A few weeks ago my sister accepted a job with crazy hours (It's a temporary deal). I agreed to help with the kids as often as I could. I have had the baby most of June. I have both the kids in addition to my three this week. I love my neice and nephew so much and want to help my sister but I agreed to help so that she could save money. She is not doing that and she is lying to me about it. I know because I have access to her bank account records and I have checked them. I wish I didn't have to do that but I knew something wasn't right. She has sent me money for the kids stuff they need like diapers and all but she has also told me she is saving money and she isn't.
Today was the last straw. It's payday for her. She made $315 and all I see all over her bank account is eating out and shopping. One reasturant for $19, Applebees for $28 and the kicker nearly $200 at a clothing store. Adult not children. I don't understand. She now has $30 left to her name (as far as the bank reads, she may have cash) I want to say something but don't want to admit I snooped in her account stuff. (She gave me the account info a few months back when I was loaning her money so I kind of have permission but I doubt she remembers).
So, what do I do? I JUST want her to save money so that when she gets the kids back she won't struggle through fall semester of school, when she can't work anymore. (She's a fulltime respitory nurse student during school year)