Hey guys a little new hear and thought maybe someone would understand where i am coming from cuz no one else seems to understand. Im 25 married with a 4 and 2 yr old. We use to live in the city and ended up moving to a very rural area to build our own home. which i am so greatful for. But I have been a SAHM for four years now only because he always made more money and daycare was always to expensive now even more expensive with two little ones but anyways, I always been an outgoing ppl person who loved to be on the go never stopping, but we been living here for two years with one car and him working 8 hours a day but two hour commute one way so 12 hours gone and then 7 hours sleep when home. I do everything cook clean take care of the kids no friends or family around. Just four walls and two toddlers. I love my babies but I feel like I am in prison. I cant just get up and go at any given time cuz i am literally stuck here with no way out. I know he works hard and I appreciate it but how long do i have to wait until we are able to save for another car ya know..Idk but on an antidepressant right now and really hope that it works out because I definately dont feel like myself I am not even in the mood to play with the kids like I use to..looked for play groups and different things to do around my neighborhood but came out dry unless i travel 1hr n 45 min to the city. I only have a short window of opportunity to get out by the time he comes home and gets back to work. Wish me luck Mama"s :/
Hi! I know what you are talking about. The main difference is that I was always the type of person to be content on the go or at home. I could always find something to do at home so being there never bothered me. Also my SO is just gone most of the time - it could be for work or for extra curricular activities - but gone is gone. So I was in the same boat as you. It was like suddenly I was thrust into this whole new world that I didn't know with no people that I knew with 2 kids, 4 walls and me. And even being at home it can be hard to get things done that you want to. Like you can't just read when you feel like it. You can't rest when you want to. You can't go to the restrooom alone. I could go on and on. In the last couple of weeks I have finally been able to drive and man had it made a big difference. Do you have places that sell cars privately for less than regular car dealers? That's what we did for a second vehicle. You just need to have the car checked before you buy it to make sure you don't get ripped off.
I feel for you. I really do. I hope things get better for you soon but keep talking to anyone you can. That helps! I'm glad you were able to talk here. :o)
I'm so sorry! Is there any way to change the situation? Can you sell or rent your home and move closer to your husband's job?
Sorry :( It sounds like you could use a break from your kids. Is there anyway your husband can take care of the kids just for a couple of hours/week so that you can get out? Like even to volunteer locally? Volunteering is a great way to make friends and it really sounds like you could use "me-time".
Hey ladies thank you all for your replies my first post and didnt think I would get any replies so again thnx :)...but yea i had a talk with hubby and he just says it will get better we will be getting the car soon so i guess i have to play the waiting game which i have been playing for two years lol it seems like everytime we try to save for a car something else comes up...smh, but i am truly glad i found this site i can vent to atleast with ppl who understand..also we cld sell and move closer to his job but then thats a 2hr 15 min drive lol...also its funny i just checked out the library today b4 I came on here and am taking the kids to a little play their having their tomorrow ;) not much but i know they will enjoy it ;)...Also I would love a work at home job if all of them didnt sound like scames so if you ladies do know ANYTHING about stay at home jobs please let me know...and I will look into some volunteering anything to get me moving.. Thank you ladies for all your suggestions I appreciate it :)
i know the feeling ive been a mom for 6 months and have always had a 9 to 5 untill recently. im going out of my mind. my boyfriend works odd hours and is in the military so i dont see him often. im realizing that conversations with a 6 month old get to be a little one sided lol.
Wheel of consequences
- thailey7608
on Jun. 27, 2012 at 10:05 AM