I have a 9 year old daughter that has a major attitude problem. And when I say major, I actually mean MAJOR!!!!! Hands flying, head shaking and eyes rolling. Always talking back. Telling me what and when she's going to do something. I am always correcting her. But please please tell me how to get this to stop. I've punished, I've fussed, I've spanked, I've done almost everything short of running away. And God, she's only 9. She does have ADHD combined and anxiety. But that doesn't give her the right to be direspective right????