My son just turned 5 at the end of May. He is very self concious already at a early age and seems to battle with a low self-esteem. I am puzzled as to why he would be feeling this way due to constant praise and positive attention from all who are a constant in his life. He has gotten to the point of saying "no one likes me", " I'm not cool enough to have friends", and other ridiculous comments, to which I reassure him that are NOT true. I try to lift him up in every way possible. He has friends and is always active and playing and running around to what seems to me as having a good time but then later when I ask him how his day went he says " it was okay I just wish I was a better kid." I try to ask questions to see what the underlying issue is but nothing ever adds up. Now on top of all of this he went to a birthday party yesterday to which I was unable to attend with him and a child there called him fat. I kknow that kids can be mean and say hurtful things but my child didn't even know what being fat was until that little boy told him. When he came home and tolf me what happened I was devastaed as well as pissed because I feel that at 5 yrs old "fat" should not be in my sons vocabulary. My son then asked me if I thought he was fat and I immedately said "NO" that he is perfect just the way he is & not to let anyone tell him different. My son is 3 foot 9 inches tall and weighs 60 pounds yeah to most people he may seem over weight but he carries it very well. He is very active and can keep up with the rest of kids his age and eats a healthy diet. He is just solid. I for one am not concerned about his weight I am however at a loss on how I can boost his esteem I talked to my mom who told me I should talk to his Dr. about to which I did and he said it was normal for kids to have self doubt at his age. Really?? I just am at my witts end and have no clue what more I can do & that makes me feel like a failure as his mom. I know this is long & I appologize but any positive advice would be appreciated.
This is my son