In sept. of 2011, I found out I was pregnant .. I told my bf at the time and we decided it would be best to get married . :) NO biggie . But instead of the white wedding I had always dreamed up, decorating, the white dress, tux, bridesmaids, flowers all that jazz, I got married in black slacks and a green shirt . (tho it was a church) I called our pastor that morning and asked if he cared to marry us . he said before, right after i found out i was pregnant that he would, after a pre-marriage session. (which we attended) . So i guess i can't say I wasnt married in a church, but I still didnt get my big white wedding because I was told that since I was already pregnant I couldnt have it .
That because I had already lost my virginity I couldnt disgrace my family with a ceremony or traditional wedding .no I had to elope . Though I was allotted a reception almost 2 months after the wedding . which was nice, dont get me wrong, we had a potluck dinner and cake .. with all the family ..
My lil man is 3 months old..I love my husband, I love my son .. Im happy married, and don't regret getting married, but I just feel that I was cheated out of a wedding, the wedding I would have liked..The wedding pictures, the wedding ceremony ..the decorating .. Everything.. that's everything I wanted ..
Am I the only one that feels like this ? Am I the only one that feels this way? I mean would it have been wrong to have a traditional wedding ceremony? I know I see all the time, (even a friend of mine) got married just bout a month or so before giving birth to her son. lil white wedding dress, small ceremony with family .. all that fun stuff that I wanted but didnt get ..
I guess in a way im jealous ..but i just feel like i was cheated because my mom felt embarrassed of me. ;(
EDIT : Okay .. sO here is another thing to ponder .. we had 2 witnesses at the ceremony..(a "maid" of honor and "best" man) so to say .. Neither one do we talk to now. :/ (dh or i) so um. what should we do about that ? i mean . conflicting photos ? because we have some from our wedding day ..