I need some advice on how to tell my mom this......really long sorry
I am in serious need of some advice. I am about to loose my MIND! So back in 2004 (yeah exactly) my mom left my dad for someone else. Well she quickly learned that the grass isnt always greener on the other side!! Since then she has been with 2 diff. guys , last one ending horrible about 2 years ago and since then she has been living out of her van. She cleans houses for a living and refuses to get an apartment bc she doesnt want to live by herself or she doesnt want to live in a certain area. So she will stay at my sisters house here and there, my house here and there, and 2 of her friends house here and there. My sister and I are absolulelty going nuts :( we can not stand her. She is soo rude and everything is ALWAYS about her. she will come and complain to my neighbors about me . My husband is in the process of finishing out basement (we live in a small townhome) bc i am due with my second child in 2 weeks(eek and she keeps bringing all her shit from her storage and putting it in our basement. We dont have room and she thinks she can just take over. When she comes here , she doesnt come till 9-930 which is our bedtime here and then she is downstairs cooking which then makes my house smell bc like i said it is a small town home. then she is also downstairs banging the pots and pans and going in and out of the house with the door slamming. My dog is obsessed with her bc she always brings him a treat or toy(not my child, BUT THE STUPID DOG) so when she is here he doesnt listen, not too mention, i cant even tell him to SIT without her yelling at me or talking over me to him, she thinks she owns him, i cant even take him in a diff. room without him crying and growling at us bc she lets him do whatever he wants. I am going insane just typing all this. Then in the mornings when she leaves, i tell her she has to bring him upstairs or he will sit downstairs n just bark. n she doesnt. SHe is SOOOO rude and dissrespectful, i cant stand it. My husband is very VERY LAID back and nothing ever bothers him but everytime she comes over he gets in a mood and will go lock him self in his office. I was always a mommmys girl and for the past couple years i cant stand her. I am get anxiety just knowing she is coming over . I am starting to really not like her and i dont want to get to the point where i flip out on her and we dont talk for years(she also knows she is pshycho but keeps making up excuses y not to get help instead she will talk about her problems with my 7 YEAR OLD AND MY 2 NIECES WHO ARE 10 AND 5) With the baby coming in 2 weeks, i want to tell her she cant stay her no more. I dont want her stressing the baby out and making everyone MORE miserable. This is going to be very hard bc she takes EVERYTHING the wrong way and i am dreading it, but she needs to start acting like a mom and caring about other pple . You cant even say anything without her changing it to be about her. like her life is soo horrible. She is the one that chose this road! UGH~ I could go on and on about how ridicilious she is!! sorry for how long this is but i need some help on how to tell her to get with it!!