See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
My sister is NOW 12 years old and for some stupid reason she decided to always look to me for the answers. Maybe because I was the oldest or maybe because I was the one cradling her in the night telling her monsters weren't under her bed while our mom was out with her new husband. But for what ever reason she has always looked to me for guidance, support, and knowledge. I always had to watch my actions around her so she wouldn't pick up on the bad traits I did from my father before he left. I hid everything from her, it probably wasn't the best thing to do being she never saw the real me but I didn't want to let her down or disappoint her I was trying to protect her. I was even doing good hiding my pregnancy from her when ever she asked why I was getting so big I blamed it on not enough exercise and too much food. Every question she asked about my symptoms was easily answered with something stupid a 11 year old (at the time) would believe. I don't know what I would do when the babies actually came. But I didn't think that far ahead.
She ending up finding out the morning I went into labor. I was driving her to school and my water broke. A look of terror struck her face like something was actually wrong. I by pasted the school and went to the hospital explaining the whole story to her and when I was finish she sat there silent. I was so upset with my self and I was ashamed that I couldn't tell her earlier because I was afraid. Once the babies came she was fine and everything looked forgiven and forgotten. Until her twelfth birthday party on July 7th. She made an announcement that she could not wait to turn 16. And we all thought hey that because she gets a car and more freedom and stuff, but no it was because she wanted to have a child! We were so shocked and when we tried to explain to her that it wasn't easy and shed never finish school because it just doesn't come easy to her now. She got really upset because here were two people (my mother and I) both teen mothers telling her that she couldn't be one as well. She hasn't talked to my mother, my hubby. siblings, or me since. I am picking her up from school on the 13 and I don't know what to tell her. I want to work this out before she turns 16 because it maybe too late. Any advice on what I should say?