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Parents Who Let Their Sick Kid Play With Others Should Be Fined

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Parents Who Let Their Sick Kid Play With Others Should Be Fined

Posted by Michele Zipp on July 29, 2012 at 1:15 PM

child with thermometerKids get sick a lot. Especially toddlers. They are exploring, putting things in their mouths all the time, sometimes they even like to lick things like shopping carts. It's terribly challenging to keep a kid from catching something. But there is something we as parents can do to prevent other kids from getting sick. You know, help another parent avoid a week of sleepless night, Stage 4 clingers, and crusty booger snot stains all over everything in the house. And that's to keep your kid cooped up in the house for the entirety of the sickness, and even however long after they may still be contagious.

And yet it's something so many parents don't do. Because that's damn near impossible. But the worse offense is actually letting your sick child play with other kids. Why, parents, why?!

It's clear we can't keep our kids quarantined for every little illness. I've taken my kids food shopping with me when they had colds. Yes, runny noses and all. There are just times where I have to do something and have no one to watch the kids. So they must come along. Of course if they had Chicken Pox or something extremely worrisome I wouldn't expose them to the outside world ... or rather expose the outside world to them. But for the times they are only a little bit of sick, they have been out and about with me. This is why I am now vigilant about cleaning off the part of the grocery cart where kids sit. I bet you'll be more careful now, too, if you weren't already.

One of the worse offenses a parent can make against another parent and perhaps even more than putting down their parenting style is letting your viral little hotbed of disease play in the sandbox with the other kids, or visit the children's museum or the library or actually set up a playdate and spent time coughing, sneezing, and drooling the germs all over the place virtually guaranteeing the other kids will get sick, too. Might as well just bring the tainted lollipops so we at least get a little serving of candy with your plague. 

Put down my parenting style all you want -- I can ignore you. Pass us whatever's going around because you're letting your knowingly sick kid play with others is not something anyone can ignore. Like I mentioned it's basically a sentence of sleepless nights, Stage 4 clingers, and boogers boogers boogers everywhere.

It happens, though. I know. I can't get angry. I'm not. There have been times I was in complete denial my child was sick -- boogers and fever and unexplained tears and all. And that's because of how awful it can be when our little loves are not feeling well. I may have even been guilty of spreading our sick to undeserving playdates. So for the times we have oops! accidentally done such a thing, the only way to make up for the crime is *drum roll* offer to babysit so those parents get a deserved night out. Or make them your best banana bread. Or both.

Have you let your kid play with other kids at the playground or elsewhere even when your child is sick? Does that make a bad mom or dad?

by on Jul. 29, 2012 at 2:08 PM
Replies (11-17):
fernjo
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 9:57 PM

I couldn't disagree more Salamander mom.  First off, kids who are sick usually FEEL sick and deserve to stay home getting extra rest so as not to become even sicker.  Can't swing it cuz you used too many of your "sick days" to go get your hair done?  Then have grandma or a friend come and sit with them.  Keep them away from other children - PERIOD!  Chicken Pox is just ONE disease.  I think most folks on here are talking about viruses like ear infections, flu, bronchitis, etc.  It's a myth that once the symptoms show the child is no longer contagious.  A common cold with SLIGHT cough is not a problem for most daycares but daycares are usually in charge of very young children and infants as well.  Young children don't use tissues - they use their hands and they sneeze on toys and spread germs far too easily.  A virus that may only be a mild issue for one child can be a much more serious deal for another.  Parents don't enjoy having to make a trip to the doctors only to pay another copay and be told to go HOME & REST.  Thats the prescription more times than not - not antibiotics - REST.  Can't do that if the kids forced to go to school can they?!

Daisy79
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 10:35 PM


Quoting fernjo:

Can't swing it cuz you used too many of your "sick days" to go get your hair done?  Then have grandma or a friend come and sit with them.  Keep them away from other children - PERIOD!  

Wow, judge-y much?  Kids get sick.  I don't know what kind of bubble you live in, but you should just stay there.  But apparently, you're the guru, here to educate the world.  Maybe you or one of your unlimited cadre of helpers can arrive at an instant's notice the next time one of my kids has a stuffy nose or a stomach ache--after all, either one could signal the start of some terrible contagious illness!  But don't worry, since you never take sick days for hair appointments, you can swing one and not worry that they may run out just in time for your kid to get mono or meningitis.  After all, the off chance of someone else's child getting sick outweighs just about any scenario (financial or otherwise) my family might be going through.


Leissaintexas
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:03 PM
You wipe the handle on the grocery cart? Maybe if we didn't sanitize everything our kids touch, they'd build stronger immune systems. I think parents are a little oversensitive about illness. It happens, move on. Losing sleep and cleaning up messes is just part of parenting. It's not like we're talking about polio or Spanish flu.
KitCat922
by on Aug. 1, 2012 at 12:57 AM
I agree! A mom brought her kid to a day care with " athletes foot" -it was hand foot mouth. My daughter got it then I got it. Used up all my sick and vacation cuz its 5 days of being contagious!
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by on Aug. 1, 2012 at 1:11 AM
For your information NOT all employers give sick days mine doesnt, and NOT everyone has "Grandma" or a friend to call get off your damn high horse, 5ths diease aka "slap face" you dont even know the kid has been exposed until the slight redding of the face appears, the public schools last year had a outbreak and yes my daughter caught it by the time the redding appears they are NOT contagious anymore dd gave it to her brother lol BUT what your ASSumeing is WRONG I have NEVER gotten my hair done. So to ASSume thats why parents cant keep their kids home is STUPID


Quoting fernjo:

I couldn't disagree more Salamander mom.  First off, kids who are sick usually FEEL sick and deserve to stay home getting extra rest so as not to become even sicker.  Can't swing it cuz you used too many of your "sick days" to go get your hair done?  Then have grandma or a friend come and sit with them.  Keep them away from other children - PERIOD!  Chicken Pox is just ONE disease.  I think most folks on here are talking about viruses like ear infections, flu, bronchitis, etc.  It's a myth that once the symptoms show the child is no longer contagious.  A common cold with SLIGHT cough is not a problem for most daycares but daycares are usually in charge of very young children and infants as well.  Young children don't use tissues - they use their hands and they sneeze on toys and spread germs far too easily.  A virus that may only be a mild issue for one child can be a much more serious deal for another.  Parents don't enjoy having to make a trip to the doctors only to pay another copay and be told to go HOME & REST.  Thats the prescription more times than not - not antibiotics - REST.  Can't do that if the kids forced to go to school can they?!


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by on Aug. 1, 2012 at 1:14 AM
to true, I dont go overboard with santizing but I know people who do and they are ALWAYS "sick" with something lol


Quoting Leissaintexas:

You wipe the handle on the grocery cart? Maybe if we didn't sanitize everything our kids touch, they'd build stronger immune systems. I think parents are a little oversensitive about illness. It happens, move on. Losing sleep and cleaning up messes is just part of parenting. It's not like we're talking about polio or Spanish flu.

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goddess99
by Michelle on Aug. 1, 2012 at 9:30 AM

When my dd is sick we stay home and we don't invite people over.

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