I feel bad for dh. 15 months ago he got a vesctomny following the miscarriage of our would be 4th baby at 8 weeks. I know the miscarriage hit dh hard. We at that point had already picked out baby names (bryson wylee for a boy and Ava Rose for a girl). We had already talked about things like sleeping arrangements for the boys and were super excited about possibly having a girl. It's all dh could talk about for the 4 1/2 weeks after finding out we were pregnant. The day after finding out I was in fact miscarrying dh announced he was getting a vesctomny. He was a 1000% sure it was what he wanted. I tried to talk him out of it. I didn't think it was a good idea. I at that point wanted to try as soon as possible for another baby. I heard that the chances of having a girl after a miscarriage were very good. Dh was 1000% against having another baby. My heart was broken that I couldn't talk dh out of it. He went and had the vesctomny. For awhile after I was made at him, but eventually got over it. I have since gotten used to the idea of no more babies. My dh on the other hand hasn't. Around the 1 year anniversary my dh started talking about babies. When we are out in public he notices every pregnant women and can here every baby coo or cry a mile away. About a week ago he commented on how he misses my cute pregnancy corks and my big round budda belly. He's constantly rubbing and kissing my belly even in public, everything makes him ask if I'm pregnant (like the other day I bought and ate some black olives. I was commenting on how good they were and dh asked if I was pregnant. I used to crave those when pregnant with my ds2.) Last night dh said, "we make damn good babies, let's say you and I have another baby?" I reminded him that he's fixed and do you know his response, "all it takes is one. I'm like superman I'm sure I got one good one left. Just let me know when your ovulating I'm your guy." I put my head in my hands because sadly enough he was serious. Help mommas what do I do?
on Jul. 30, 2012 at 8:41 AM