How to console

[Garnet_Iris11]

A friend of mine from many years ago and I have reconnected over the last year. It has been awesome talking with her and getting awesome ideas from her. During the course of the year she became pregnant, a little boy. I enjoyed my pregnancy and I love hearing about my friends pregnancies. She would share how her two children would get involved in the pregnancy and how excited they were it was too cute for words. Her due date was the 4th of August, her water broke at home over the weekend. She was so ready! She gave birth Sunday morning .. her placenta had ruptured during labor and he was without oxygen for longer than he should have. The poor baby has little brain function. She has been posting pictures, other than the equipment he looks like a healthy boy. I have made positive comments and telling her that she and her family are in my prayers. I feel so bad for her .. my heart breaks that a healthy pregnancy would end this way.

[mom2gr8tgirls]

Honestly, you are doing the best that can be expected.  One of my best friends found out at her 20 wk u/s that her baby would never live outside the womb.  He had a multitude of problems.  She chose to carry him to term (he was viable while still in utero), she felt him move and grow inside her.  When he was born, he was born still.  She cried and cried and I felt so lost to comfort her.  She would go through phases of being okay and engaging with her two daughters to being inconsolable.  I just sat with her and held her while she cried.  I let her hit me when she got mad.  I didn't speak much, I let her talk.  She told me a few months later that I had helped her more than all the people who offered "if you need anything" etc.  She said the moments that I listened or just hugged her were the most help.  So I guess what I'm saying is, sometimes not saying anything is when you say the most.  Just sit with her and hold her hand, hug her, etc.  I'm so sorry your friend is going through this.  I'll be thinking of her and her little one.

[chloesmommy777]

Oh, I'm so sorry! Just be her friend and continue praying. Be there for her. You know what to do, you're already doing it!

[OliviasMommy611]

So sad.

[splatz]

I can't even imagine. I agree with pps. Just be there for her. It might not seem like much. But I bet it means a ton to her.