Time to come out of my shell... ( advise please)

[Rojas16]

Hello everyone,
This is my first post and first time really using the site. But I wanted some advise. And a chance to break out of my shell. I have 2 amazing children. A 5 year old girl and a one year old boy. And over the process of being married having kids and gaining weight I have lost a lot of who i use to be. Very outgoing. Lots of friends. Funny. And I love being a Mom. But I miss interaction and friends. I have found myself to be depressed about it. Which makes me lazy. Which does not help that I want to lose weight. And for some reason I can't get off my butt and do something about it. I get anxiety thinking about it. And get nervous talking to people much less trying to hang out. But I need to. I sick of feeling alone. Just cause I am a Mom. And my kids would love to have more friends to. So anyone ever feel like this? And what advice do you have?

Thanks for reading. Looking forward to hearing from you.

[goddess99]

Set small, realistic goals for yourself. If possible, volunteer at your daughters school. You will definitely meet people/friends doing that.

[Janet]

 You got some great advice, I hope it works out for you hun.

[ditdot]

You are not alone. I am feeling the same way. I was married, moved, lost my job, and had my daughter all within a year. I lost contact with all but one of my friends and I usually only hangout with my mom. I've been trying to make new friends, but I don't work as of right now and my daughter is only 3 months old so she isn't involved in any play groups or the ymca or anything. Just know that there are plenty of us mom's that feel this way. 

[mommyjenn29]

I am going through the same thing too.I noticed as you get older it's a lot harder to find real friends:(.I am 30 and just realized I don't have real friends only fake ones and it sucks.I am the same way when it comes to depression also with feeling lazy and not doing anything.I am always moping when I go through the depressed phases.You did get a lot of advice and do hope everything works out for you.Also if you ever need anyone to talk to friend request me and we can talk on messenger:)

[angelfromcali21]

What part of cali?

[countrylife3]

Start by being confident. Say in your mind, I can do this.
Ask a friend for lunch & if they have kids, bring them so it's like a little playdate.
Try working out when your kids are napping, if they do take naps.
Eat healthy!!

[Rojas16]

Southern. How about ou