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I don't know why people do the things they do?

Posted by on Sep. 14, 2012 at 3:32 PM
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I have a stepson. Now I don't go around telling people. This is my stepson. I've been his mom since he was three. His real mom lives 3000 miles away. I do everything for my son. He is 14 now and plays football. Yesterday I posted on fb clotting about my sons game and how well he played. ( yes I'm friends on fb with his bio mom). If she wanted to comment on my status she could of just said something to support her son like way to go. Good job ect. But instead she felt the need to comment so off track of my post just so she can tell all my friends I'm not his mom just his step mom. Does she think any of them even care. The ones that know me well know he's my step son but also know I do everything for him but I don't go on fb downing her about what she don't do for him. Why does she feel the need to tell the world he's not mine even though I do everything for him. I help him with his homework. I go to every football game. She has not been to one since he was 5. But I don't tell the world that. The post was just to tell my son he played a great game and I'm proud. I don't think she had any right smh it just makes me so mad. I don't know why
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snuggiewoogie
by on Sep. 14, 2012 at 4:10 PM
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 Sounds like she is jealous or something! Sounds like you are doing all the right stuff I would not let it bother me at all......I always ask myself why do people do some of the crap they do. I can't worry about them and there actions I just try to do the right things myself :)

DixieFlower
by on Sep. 14, 2012 at 9:54 PM

I can see her side of it and I can see yours. I have a nephew that I have raised pretty much since birth. (my mom has had custody of him since he was 5 months old and he's now 15 yrs old)  He decided to call me mom and I'm fine with that. He knows who his real mom is (my sister) however he hasn't had contact with her in years. Now I'm sure that if she saw me refering to him as my son she'd have a cow. Which I do understand since technically he isn't my son.

KW1280
by Member on Sep. 14, 2012 at 9:57 PM
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He is UR son and brag away.
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cl1998
by on Sep. 14, 2012 at 11:15 PM

 Agree!

Quoting snuggiewoogie:

 Sounds like she is jealous or something! Sounds like you are doing all the right stuff I would not let it bother me at all......I always ask myself why do people do some of the crap they do. I can't worry about them and there actions I just try to do the right things myself :)

 

Bethy16
by on Sep. 15, 2012 at 7:03 AM
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This is where the "de friend" button comes in handy. You ARE his mother and at 14 he so knows that. She is jealous. Yes I understand her point a bit but if she was in his life and took an active roll things would be different. Anybody (just about) can pop out a kid,it takes someone special to be a Mommy,you are his Mommy!
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angie2568
by on Sep. 15, 2012 at 9:43 AM

All it is, is jealously. You are there daily she is not for her own reasons. So it may have just rubbed her the wrong way. Ignore the comments bc as you stated he knows what you have done for him, she knows and all of your friends and family.

Just let it go - all people have opinions and some people just blurt out their feelings on inappropriate websites or in person.

Janet
by Ruby Member on Sep. 15, 2012 at 12:47 PM

Ditto

Quoting snuggiewoogie:

 Sounds like she is jealous or something! Sounds like you are doing all the right stuff I would not let it bother me at all......I always ask myself why do people do some of the crap they do. I can't worry about them and there actions I just try to do the right things myself :)

 

kaitybird
by on Sep. 15, 2012 at 3:19 PM
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I would just go in and kindly delete her post and privately let her know to please keep it friendly.  No need to air drama.  :)  


Dinosaurspiders
by on Sep. 15, 2012 at 3:34 PM
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I think its wonderful that you see your stepson as your own child. There is nothing wrong with that, and everything right with it. I was raised by my mother and my stepfather....well thats wrong, he was Dad!! Biological or not that was my dad, and I am so lucky to have him as my father. It may be understandable that she is jealous, or possessive of her role as biological mom but that was completely rude of her to use your post as an opportunity to advertise it. She could have just said, "Woo! Thats our boy." Or something. However don't let this stress you out too much, its just one person's comment, and your friends and family understand the situation. They know, you know, and he knows: You are not stepmom, you are mom. You have earned that right and despite her callous words, she can't take that status away from you. 

MommyKir
by on Sep. 16, 2012 at 2:57 PM
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I have the same issue. Well my husband does.kids are 5 and 3. My husband has raised my boys, their bio dad took off and moved out of state he hasnt seen the kids since my youngest(turning 4 in 1 month)was 3mo old. He used to be rude about posts where i would say "my boys and their daddy" (my husband. Stating "he's not their dad I am" But he abandoned those boys. my husband stepped into their life when my youngest was 5 mo. niether of them remember their bio dad at all and believe my husband Wes is their dad. We are not going to tell them otherwise unless they ask. I'm sure one day they will realise that "daddy" isnt in alot of baby pics... Some may not agree with our choice of that but thats ok with me.
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