how do i....

[cookinmommyof1]

Tactfully not invite bils gf to our wedding. We are getting married at the courthouse in the next couple months, and are having a reception on dec 15. I do not like stb bils gf, or her kids. I suppose it would be ok the have her there, but I do not want her kids there. They are obnoxious destructive little monsters (and I hate to say it, but I think she is a terrible mother) and I DO NOT want them there. How do I not invite her kids (and hopefully her) when other peoples kids are welcome to attend?

[Pammi86]

Thats a tough one and sadly you might just have to come out and say it!

[sleepymommy87]

Well I mean she's not family so you're not really under any family obligation (not that you would be obligated if she was family but that's harder to get away from lol) so I would just tell her flat out. It's your day, your rules.

[mom2gr8tgirls]

I don't really think there's a tactful way to say it.  I'd maybe talk to your BIL about it first?  Just let him know that you'd prefer her children not attend the wedding.  I have a feeling though, you're going to just have to come right out and say you don't want them there.

[Janet]

 Tell your BIL or your DH to be you don't want them there. That's about all you can do. Hope they don't get mad.

[jltplk25]

Oo that's hard. I'd talk to your fiance or bil about it.

[Deryni28]

I would talk to your fiance about it first. Technically he should be the ones to tell them you don't want her kids or her there. Since it is his brother. But if you have to be the one to end up telling the brother in law, I would try to be nice when saying it but tell him the real reason. I think it's better to be direct with people.

[Vixcalamity]

This. I think it's going to cause a stink no matter what. GL.

Quoting Pammi86:

Thats a tough one and sadly you might just have to come out and say it!

[splatz]

I see that as ending badly no matter how you do it.

Good luck mama!

[delanna6two]

Hope you're able to work things out...hugs..

[furbabymum]

 You can't without being a bitch. Don't make more in law drama than you have to. I'm not fond of my SIL or her kids. They're monsters too, but I tolerate them when I have to because I love my husband.