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My husband took my child away from me

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Hi!Everyone,

I am from India and I have a 3 yr old son and I love him with all my heart (u all know just the feeling).On the past Monday afternoon my husband and I had a little quarrel but it was nothing serious and lasted only about 20 minutes.After that, while I was in the shower, my husband  told me he was taking our son to the nearby 10 minutes walk from home shop.I cooked dinner and wondered where they went since it was already about one and a half hours since they left. Then,I remembered we needed some other things and started ringing his cell.He picked up my call after the fifth time and I asked him to get us the items.It was then that he told me where they went and when I asked  whether they were coming home soon he told me that they were never coming back and started shouted,yelling,screaming at me at the top of his voice.I was so shocked since I didn't even know the reason of him doing things like that and I still don't.He made me feel like the most horrible person on this earth! I called his mum right after and she said she'd call back later but she never did.When I reached her again she said that her son and grandson were staying with them and when I offered to get my son she told me there was no need. I was devastated, I still am. Tuesday night came and she called me just to say my son is okay. I miss him so much. I can hardly breathe, I was hoping they'd invite me to stay too but they never did and when I said I was coming to take him home they wouldn't hear of it and told me that my husband was angry at me for something. Today is Thursday and still no word from my husband or his parents. Oh!they said that we should be separated but not divorced for a while. I cannot think of a reason for all this mess they put me in.I am a full-time mum and it's driving me crazy to be separated from my son.He still needs me so much and I really don't know what to do.Should I seek a legal advise or wait for another week and if they still don't allow me to take my child after that I should just go and take him from them forcefully?.I am desperate and I don't want any of my friends to know about my situation yet.Please advise me on how to go about with this.What should I do?

by on Sep. 20, 2012 at 2:54 AM
Replies (31-40):
jamiegraham
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 12:01 PM

I wouldn't wait I would seek legal advise

momof3jam
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 12:05 PM

 Have the police escort you to pick up your son. You don't want to go get him forcefully, that's too stressful for him to see.

lovedbymom
by Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 12:07 PM

I would definitely call the law enforcements where you are and tell them the situation.  I wish you the best of luck and I will pray that things get better for you.  I hope you get your son.

furbabymum
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 12:35 PM

 You are from India but living in America? Girl, get yourself a lawyer. My hubby tried that I'd slaughter him.

DixieFlower
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 9:13 PM

Actually since he left the marital home he'd be the one considered to have abandoned her. That happened to my mom when she finally saw a way out from my very abusive husband. When she filed for divorce he answered with the accusation of her abandoning him since she is the one that left their marital home.

Quoting salamandersmom:

I would start some sort of legal proceedings.  The longer you wait, the more your husband can claim that you ABANDONED them.  If he claims that, it will be very hard for you to get any kind of custody agreement.


DixieFlower
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 9:15 PM

How did everything go?

Quoting corypuii:

Hey everyone thank you sooo much for all the kind words and advises. Yesterday after getting few replies about my post I finally talked to my lawyer and he asked me to go with a few friends or family members to my in-laws house and get my son.If we fail to take him home then he told me to go ahead and file a case for custody.My aunt and her husband will go with me after a few hours and I am so nervous. I am having all kinds of 'what if' thoughts. I am living in India so I think the law is a bit different from the US or other countries. All I want is my son back and I am willing to do whatever it takes to get him back. Please pray for me so that I may have the courage and the strength to put up a fight against my husband. I will keep you all updated again maybe in the late afternoon. Thanks again..


corypuii
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:53 PM

Hey girls...!

GOOD NEWS!!
Like I posted yesterday I went with my aunt and her husband to my in-laws'. As guessed from earlier they just told us right away that we can't take my son. They gave us lame excuses but since we didn't want to stressed out my son we remained very calm. We begged (seriously!) but they kept on telling us that it was not possible for us to take him home. When I looked at my son I just knew that we both won't be able to bear another day or night without each other. He hugged me and stayed by my side and never moved and inch away from me. I don't know what came over me I just took him and ran from the house for about 10 minutes. I was sure that my husband was going to keep up with us and kept running as fast as I could carrying my son but luckily no one did. They never thought that I'd actually have the guts to do it. We took the first cab we saw and went home. I know what I did was not the most desirable thing to do but I had no choice. I couldn't leave my 3 yr old anymore. I knew he was missing me just as much as I do. We are both very happy right now and I am looking for a job right away. Thank you all so much for giving me support and great advises when I needed them most.(will be posting my son's pic soon).

godsgirl26
by Bronze Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:55 PM


Quoting RLT2:

Lawyer, call a lawyer immediately! And good luck, I'm sorry he did this to you!

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WyledBunch
by on Sep. 22, 2012 at 12:48 AM

I am SO happy for you that you have your son back!! Congratulations and good luck! Please keep us updated on how you're both doing *HUGS*

Quoting corypuii:

Hey girls...!

GOOD NEWS!!
Like I posted yesterday I went with my aunt and her husband to my in-laws'. As guessed from earlier they just told us right away that we can't take my son. They gave us lame excuses but since we didn't want to stressed out my son we remained very calm. We begged (seriously!) but they kept on telling us that it was not possible for us to take him home. When I looked at my son I just knew that we both won't be able to bear another day or night without each other. He hugged me and stayed by my side and never moved and inch away from me. I don't know what came over me I just took him and ran from the house for about 10 minutes. I was sure that my husband was going to keep up with us and kept running as fast as I could carrying my son but luckily no one did. They never thought that I'd actually have the guts to do it. We took the first cab we saw and went home. I know what I did was not the most desirable thing to do but I had no choice. I couldn't leave my 3 yr old anymore. I knew he was missing me just as much as I do. We are both very happy right now and I am looking for a job right away. Thank you all so much for giving me support and great advises when I needed them most.(will be posting my son's pic soon).




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Basherte
by Bronze Member on Sep. 22, 2012 at 8:43 AM

I am SOOO happy for you. Good luck with the job search.  Keep us posted for just a little longer. And still file for custody. That way if the father tries to take him from you again you can call the police for kidnapping.

Quoting corypuii:

Hey girls...!

GOOD NEWS!!
Like I posted yesterday I went with my aunt and her husband to my in-laws'. As guessed from earlier they just told us right away that we can't take my son. They gave us lame excuses but since we didn't want to stressed out my son we remained very calm. We begged (seriously!) but they kept on telling us that it was not possible for us to take him home. When I looked at my son I just knew that we both won't be able to bear another day or night without each other. He hugged me and stayed by my side and never moved and inch away from me. I don't know what came over me I just took him and ran from the house for about 10 minutes. I was sure that my husband was going to keep up with us and kept running as fast as I could carrying my son but luckily no one did. They never thought that I'd actually have the guts to do it. We took the first cab we saw and went home. I know what I did was not the most desirable thing to do but I had no choice. I couldn't leave my 3 yr old anymore. I knew he was missing me just as much as I do. We are both very happy right now and I am looking for a job right away. Thank you all so much for giving me support and great advises when I needed them most.(will be posting my son's pic soon).


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