I have, it felt terrible. I would recommend seeing a dr and a theraist. I hope that you are feelnig better sooN!
I had it with baby #3. It was horrible. I kept thinking something was going to happen to my baby since I had a difficult delivery. I thought it would never end. Just about the time I was going to seek help it ended. BUT, I waited much to long to get to that point. I should have went earlier. So if it is real bad go get some help you don't have to be miserable.
My best friend had it. She said she felt like she didn't want to do anything. She didn't want to hang out, leave the house, cook, clean, take care of her kids, etc. She said she almost kind of resented having her baby. She also said she cried a lot and felt more burdened with stress than normal. She started having panic attacks and she finally went in to see someone. She got prescribed an anti-depressant and got much better from there.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but those stretch marks are there forever. There is not magical cream or cure that removes them. You can use Mederma (I've heard it works well) to lessen how prominent they are, but nothing will remove them. I've seen a photo on FB...I'll see if I can find it for you.
As far as you feeling like a failure, you aren't. The simple fact that you acknowledge you feel bad and and want to help your DD makes you a good mom. It's overwhelming raising children. They can't tell us what they want, what's wrong...they just cry. Eventually, you learn what to do and what they need. It comes with time. Mom's love to help their DD's...my mom has offered to come stay with us every time I have another child. I decline, but that's because my DH always takes 2 wks off when we have a baby.
When it come to her napping, cuddle her before her nap. Make sure she has a clean diaper on and isn't hungry. Then just cuddle her and let her fall asleep in your arms. I've done this with 3 kids now and they all can go to sleep on their own now (for those who believe that rocking your child to sleep makes them not able to sleep on their own). She's only 3 months old, so she probably won't nap long, but she should be napping often. And right about this age is when they stop sleeping all the time. She's going to be awake more than asleep now. It's normal. Take the help your mom is offering. There is no shame in needing help. Talk to you DH about how you feel. I'm sure he thinks you're doing an amazing job. Being a new parent is hard work!! GL mama...and don't forget you can always come on CM and vent!
Quoting angelbab24:I had an emergency c section on 7/20, still have stretch marks regardless of how much cocoa butter i use and last week I had a lump removed from my breast (found out Tuesday it was benign, thank God) so I feel ugly with these new scars. I cry all the time and have horrible self esteem (worse then before I was pregnant).
My mom comes over almost every day bc she's retired, to spend time with me and dd but I feel like a burden to her when I ask her to watch dd so I can shower or cook. I know I'm not bc she told me but I hate asking for help and it kills me that I have to now. I just feel like I'm a horrible mom, daughter and wife lately. Plus dd doesn't nap well and recently started screaming every time were in the car. i don't know how to help her and I just feel like I'm failing her. i guess I should call my dr next week.
I just felt sad...like I was a terrible mother, and my son would be better off without me. It made me not bond with my child till about 6 months old when I pulled myself out of that funk.
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