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Problem child or just experimenting? *Long* need advice on what to do **Update**

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I called up my sons principal yesterday and he told me that this shouldn't have happened. He's going to call a meeting with all of the 2nd grade teachers and inform them of what is happening. He's going to make sure that the teachers keep an eye on Courtney to make sure she doesn't do it again. I feel bad that I went over my sons teachers' head but I figured I had to speak to the principal about the situation. I did suggest to him that his teacher, him and I should meet up but that's when he told me he's going to speak with the other teachers.  He said that it would be bad if my son had to be transfered to a different class because he probably made friends all ready and how far into the school year it is. Really?? Why would MY son have to move to a different class?? I told him in a 7 year olds perspective he might feel that he's being punished if he ended up moving into another class. He told me that he wouldn't want to move Courtney out of that class just in case she was put there for a reason. Wow!! Really?? That was the reason he gave me?? Okay. So if this continues and they make him move to a different class, I'm thinking of getting the media involved, after all, if the situation was reversed, my son would be the one getting suspended for this. I feel they are being sexist about this situation. 

My son was in 1st grade last year and 6 years old. Things were going fine for him. Until one day he comes home and said, "Courtney kissed me on the lips today." She was a classmate of his. I told him that she shouldn't do it and that he should stay away from her. The week after he comes home from school and he said,"Courtney tried holding my hand and kissed me on the cheek." I told him that the next time she touches you to tell her stop. The next day he comes home and says, "Courtney kissed me on the lips today." I asked, "did you tell her to stop?" He said yes. I told him to ignore her. I told him to not tell the teacher because she doesn't need to get in trouble. I figured she's 6 so she's just experimenting. The next week he comes up to me and tells me that she touched his penis. So I wrote his teacher a note and told her what his classmate did. She called me to let me know that the kids went to see the school counselor to talk about this (separately, of course). That her parents were informed on what happened. She also told me that she's going to keep them separate and she will keep a better eye on her from now on. I explained to her that she had been kissing him and holding his hands throughout the year. I told his teacher that I didn't want to say anything at first because I didn't want to get Courtney in alot of trouble and possibly have this scar her when all she might have been doing is experimenting to begin with.

The next day my son comes home telling me, "Courtney came up to me and put her arms on her hips and said to me, "thanks alot Alex!" So that was the end of that.

This year my son is in 2nd grade and 7 years old. At his open house (before school starts each year, kids get to visit their classroom, meet their teacher and possibly meet their classmates). We saw that Courtney was in his class again this year.

I informed his teacher on what happened last year between the two of them and she told me that she was told about it all ready.

One my of son's friend came over to play and his friends mother told me that Courntey is a trouble maker and that she got her son in trouble a couple of times last year.

So.....last week (school started September 4th as it's 3 weeks into schoo) my son comes home and yet, again, tells me that Courtney kissed him on the cheek.

I'm thinking of maybe contacting my sons elementary school principal and letting him know what's going on since, obviously, telling my sons teacher isn't helping at all. I can understand, she has to watch over 18 kids so she can't keep on eye on Courtney all of the time. She's not there when they have lunch or are at their specials. 

Should I inform my sons teacher on what Courtney did or should I just go and tell the principal?

I don't want to go over the teachers head and go right to her boss but it doesn't seem like talking to his teacher is helping at all.

Also, isn't this considered a type of bullying?

by on Sep. 29, 2012 at 11:22 AM
Replies (81-90):
LaineysMomma
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:36 PM
Somebody is sexually abusing that little girl why the hell aren't they seeing this..school personell should know these signs!!! Save that baby and report it to CPS not the media..!
saraw575
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:47 PM

I hate to jump to conclusions but I've found that children that do things like this have been exposed to some type of sexuality whether it be abuse or just walking in on big sister/brother or mom/dad. I really hate to say this, but you might want to take a look at the signs. Either way, a child doesn't learn this on their own. It could be from their peers or an older person, I pray that this is not the case.

SuperWoman8
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:56 PM

I think something needs to be done, but I bet that the reason courtney is being dealt with on a special basis is because she's been molested. granted, she at first seemed to be a bit over affectionate, but if she keeps it all up and is inappropriately touching your son, then to me that's a BIG red flag that she doesn't understand where you draw the line.

Good luck to you and your son! hope it all works out!

SuperWoman8
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:57 PM

does anyone know if the girl in question had been molested? not a excuse, but I'm wondering.

Quoting Bethy16:

I had a VERY simmilar situation with my son when he was in 1st grade. This little girl actually pulled her pants down and asked my son to lick her and she wanted to suck his penis!! She did the same thing to my girlfriends son so we both called the school trying to avoid the parents. They also called them in separately and that afternoon the girl grabbed my son and threw him into the bus window also saying thanks for getting her in trouble. In this case the school did nothing. It started up again last year the first week on the bus and i told the school and the parents I was going to the police since they are not protecting my son! I was so happpy when they changed bus routes and even though she lives down the block she is not on the bus with him. BUT guess who he was sitting next to in class the first day of school??? I requested she not be in class with him and here she is! The principal cant do anything now but the teacher moved his seat. She keeps them as apart as she can. That being said this girl had both of the kids on each side of her ask to have their desks moved and she gets sent to the office almost every day. While she is not bullying my son anymore she is so disruptive in the class it takes away from all therest of the kids. What drives me nuts is that because it is was a girl to a boy it isnt as serious as if it was a boy doing this to a girl. I would threaten the school and if it continues they need to call CPS because 6yr olds shouldnt know this kind of stuff :(


KnikkaP
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 8:02 PM

Have you considered contacting her parents??

Jenna44420
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 8:21 PM

What about talking to her parents?  If it's anyone who should be correcting her behavior it's them.  It seems the school is making it very hard for you to protect your son.  I don't think it's bullying, I think it's molestation.

This situation happened to me by a neighborhood girl who was just a year older then me and I have always referred to it as a molestation because that's they way what she did made me feel...as if I had been molested.

It affected me and always will.  Are you sure this is not how your son feels?

BabyLuv0688
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 8:37 PM

i would definitly not call this bullying but i would demand that something be done or the child be moved. Your son should not be moved because he is not the problem. It sounds like this child just does not have proper boundaries or perhaps someone is doing that to her at home?

lovemymichael
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 8:38 PM
Oh my! Well if talking to teachers isn't helping, I would talk to her mother. She may not even know about this. Sounds to me the school doesn't want to tell her themselves, that's why they want to move him not her. I wouldn't go to media though. That's just asking for more trouble I think
AngeLnChainZ
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 8:43 PM

I wouldn't just be calling, I would be sitting in the office first thing the next morning. That is sexual harrassment REGARDLESS of who is doing it.  That little girl would have been suspended if she did that crap at my sons school (they don't even like the kids huggin each other)

I volunteer to save lives; What do you do?

PurpleChaos
by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 8:48 PM

I agree they are being sexist about it. Demand she be tranferred to another class, her parents notified, or you'll contact the media. This is ridiculous. The kissing on the cheek is one thing but the touching? Definitely not. 

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