If you saw your husband/bf less days a week due to his new work, is that a strain
If your husband/bf had to work different hours forced by his work, and you saw him less days a week, would that be a strain on your relationship? I think ours is in trouble.
It can be hard, but it is what you let it be. We were military, then hubby also went to school full time while also going to work full time. Work was also 3rd shift, so basically, I saw him one day a week. Military was 9 years, he went to school twice, so 3 years of that. We have been married 16 years & we are still happily married. Also have a son, so had to share him in that time.
You have to A. Make the most of the time you have & B. Care enough to understand that Quality not Quanity matters.
You might not see each other alot, but sometimes it has to be. You have to give notes, send emails, send texts, make an effort to go out to eat, go for a walk at a mall, etc. It doesn't have to be awesome all out. Also, be understanding, you might need to say, I MISS YOU, this is rough, etc once in a while, but also, understand it can't be what you say daily & weekly.
its hard my ( my spelling sucks just to warn you) fiance has two jobs and i hardly get to see him but four hours a night and it's hard cause some times i feel like our love is not like it should be or he is to tried to love and cudle and hold me. and it is hard on me. so i feel you.
It really depends on the two people involved. My DH was an OTR driver for a little while. We talked nightly on the phone before he'd go to sleep. We did okay.
My DH works a lot... There is a lot of travel and a lot of late hours. It can definitely be a strain at times. If he started working even MORE than he does now, it would be a hurdle for us... but we'd find a way through it. Thank God we have close family near by, so even when he is gone, I am not totally isolated or on my own 100% of the time. My family helps me when they can.
Over a year and a half ago my husband was laid off at his job that was 6 minutes from us and being hired less than three weeks of being laid off at a good job that is an hour and a half away and requires some lengthy hours. He went from being home by 5 every day to being home by 8 every day.
A strain on our relationship... no, but I do miss him in the evenings. No matter what we've always spent time with each other every night and we make the best we can of the time we have. He's not the type to be stressful when he comes home and he enjoys spending time with his family and me. Once the children are in bed we're cuddled next to each other either watching something or grouped up and playing the same game together. He is and always will be my very best friend, I have great friends and even a best friend but none but my husband is my very best friend.
Quoting didyouthink76:Quoting OliviasMommy611:
Nope! We live a part and are stronger than ever!
How long you been together?
Thinking About Taking DS Out of Daycare....
- didyouthink76
on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:10 PM