My 3 1/2yo ds throws a total melt down shit fit every time he hears the words "no, not right now, later, in a minute, hang on"..... I am about to go freaking insane. I have tried time outs, ignoring him until he can calm down, explaining you dont get your way when you wig out about stupid shit.... it happens several times a day. I know its just the age, but i need a remedy
Just stay consistent. I get eye to eye with my daughter when she keeps saying please please please after I've said no or not yet, in a little while. When I get down eye to eye, I tell her "Stop for a minute. Stop whining and listen to my words." 95% of the time she will listen and then we talk about it. The other 5% she just wants to keep whining so I send her to her room and tell her not to come out until she's ready to talk like a big girl. My daughter is also 3.5 years old.
You're really doing all that you can... just say "No one likes it when you act like that." Or "you are not going to get your way if you act like that." and then do the time out and/or ignore him until he calms down. If he's the kind of kid who can't stand to be alone, you could do the time outs in his room away from you or siblings, telling him he can come out when he can act nice. Otherwise, patience (as much as you can muster) until he outgrows this is all you CAN do.
lol... did something similar once. My middle son - God he was a heathen. He did grow up to be a person I'm proud of! DS2 wanted to do something, and I said NO. So, he said that if I didn't let him, he was going to call CPS and tell them I hit him. For a second I was alarmed. You know how they are, you are judged guilty no matter what. Then I got mad. I went over, and got the cordless phone down off the wall and handed it to him. I smiled my evil bitch smile - which I don't use often - and I told him in this chilling voice that he should go ahead and call. But that by the time they got there, he really would be an abused child. He looked at me, and looked down at the phone in his hand. Then he looked back at me, and looked back down at the phone. And he tiptoed right by me and hung the phone back up. And that was the end of the issue. I guess I must have looked like one scary, mean bitch... I know I would never have laid a hand on him, but he didn't know that. And I'm glad I called him on his bluff, because otherwise I would have lived in fear of my own kids.
Quoting CaptainCookie:
Truthfully? I will get eye to eye and with a mean tone I will say that when I say no I mean no. And if you don't listen I will spank your fucking ass. Now. Do I actually spank? Rarely. But I have the look that says I just might.
Things that annoy you
- cookinmommyof1
on Oct. 12, 2012 at 6:35 PM