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i think i didnt get my kids enough xmas presents. i feel so gulity

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 hi my name is kayla i am a 24 yr old momma with 2boys and a 3rd on the way.  we are a very low income family. i try my best to get my boys what they want for xmas. when i was little i remember under the xmas tree was filled with xmas presents 4 me b4 my sisters were born so i feel i owe my boys the same treatment because even when my sisters were born we still had alot of presents each (may have been alot to me then) but i just feel that my boys deserve the same treatment and my momma and us was a low income family to but my momma always found away to get us alot of things for xmas and i want the same for my boys but somehow i cant seem to aford alot for them. i always get so much guilt built up its unreal and i know they are only 3yrs and 1yr old and dont understand  that well and is happy with anything they get but its the thought that will always b in the back of my head. maybe there is away to manage my money better??

by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:04 PM
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by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 8:06 AM
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 i am going out again today to do a lill more xmas shopping ill try some of the stores yous have sugested to see how it turns out and ill get on later when i come back to let ya'll know how i made out. i rele dont normally go to biglots bc thats in selinsgrove and i live in lewisburg and gas is a mad issue for us so i stick with walmart alot bc thats a few blocks away from where i live but my bf gets paid today and im sure he will have enough money to put gas in for us to go and dollar stores are all over here but around the time i can get a sitter so we can xmas shop it isnt till the store is closed so dollar store isnt rele in 4 me unless i get lucky for someone to watch the boys but ima do wat i can later and ill get back on when i get back and let ya'll know how i made out

by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 7:45 PM

Hey Kayla, 

I totally understand how you could feel a little guilt this time of year, there is soooo much pressure to buy,buy,buy and especially with the thoughts and memories you have of your mom and holidays when you were young. However, dont feel too bad and definately dont let it stress you out! Im sure your doing your best to give your boys the world ( or atleast the things in this world we can afford) and they will love you for that. If you really wanna make it up though try making cheap family traditions that you and your boys can enjoy every year, it will give them something to look forward too and it will be better than any gift you can EVER buy because they will be able to carry on those traditions to their families when they are older... 

Kids only care about what WE make important! 2 or 3 gifts a piece is more than enough ( they will only get broken, lost, out grown or forgotten over the next year anyways)

From one lovng Momma to another <3

Cheer up snd enjoy ur holiday with your babies santa green

by on Dec. 22, 2012 at 2:18 AM

my kids are each getting a pair of toe socks, the boys are each getting a generic hot wheels type car and my daughter is getting a little bottle of bubble bath. Thats it. We are having a nice dinner. But we don't have a tree or any fancy decorations. Just the decorations my kids made.

I feel bad because this is the least amount of stuff they have ever gotten. The last few years have been less than they used to get but still pretty good. This year its just didn't work out, I lost my job and I'm barely getting by with the bills.

by on Dec. 22, 2012 at 1:30 PM
I agree

Quoting lnrmom:

Take the commercialism out of the holiday and create memories. When we had very lean times we started a tradition of making holiday cookies. It was fun for everyone, and that's what they gave their teachers (and whoever else we gifted). At that age the kids don't care. They'd rather play with the boxes. Relax. At the end of the day it won't matter how much you spent on Christmas, but on the traditions you began.

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by on Dec. 22, 2012 at 1:30 PM
I grew up poor and the few gifts my mom got me, we're more special to me.
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by on Dec. 22, 2012 at 3:10 PM

hi am beckky. can i know you more??

by on Dec. 22, 2012 at 4:01 PM

You should try to find a goodwill or salvation army around you. Salvation Army (at least the ones around me) have 50% off on Wed. Goodwill always has cheap toys. I've gotten most of my kids Christmas gifts from goodwill this year. It saved me a ton of money. You can get things from there that if bought new would cost 20-30 dollars, but since they are used you can get them for (the most) $5. If its still in good condition, then thats a steal. I bought my kids a Barbie Dream House from there for $6. If your kids are anything like mine, they destroy their toys after a while and buying from Goodwill makes it so I dont feel so bad and think "I spent $30 on that and now its ruined. :(" Now I think "Well, at least I didnt spend a lot on it." Makes for less stress for myself AND they get a bunch of presents under the tree and I didnt have to go completely broke doing it. I shopped a little each paycheck though.

Dont worry right now since they are so young, but its always good to have a plan in hand for the future. :)

by on Dec. 23, 2012 at 10:25 PM

Our girls are getting one gift each from us.  They have what they need, and they are going to get too much from family.  We never had a lot at Christmas, and I never missed it, or felt our holiday lacked.  My parents made it about family, and the Christian part of the holiday, and not about the stuff.  Frankly, in my world, if your bills are paid and their needs are met, don't sweat Christmas toys- find a different way to celebrate, and make some really great memories!

by on Dec. 25, 2012 at 6:06 PM

my kids each got a pair of colorful toe socks

my boys got a 5 pack of hot wheels cars to share and a knex set to share

my daughter got a small make up kit.

that is all they got, that is all I could afford. 

They liked the things they got, they said thank you

Do I wish I could do more for them ?   YES but there isn't anything i can do about it so why beat myself up about it?

by on Dec. 26, 2012 at 7:57 AM

I hope they enjoyed Christmas. 

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