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A call from the principle about my 5 yr old!!

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I didn't know how to approach my 5 and 7 year old about what had happened at sandy hook but i wanted to tell them of course but away you would explain it to a kindergartner and a 1st grader. softly i told them that a very bad man had went into a school with guns and killed a lot of innocent kids and teachers. Everyone was constantly talking about how to tell your children but now i wish i just kept it all hidden from them and i feel like this is now all my fault.

the principle called me yesterday and to find out what my 5 yr old said. he was sitting at a table with two girls and out of no where told them he was going to kick there butt and bring a gun to school tomorrow!!!!! and then the tears fell.. how could my child say that, these poor children probably now fearing the worst. Principle basically told him that its unacceptable, not to happen ever again and that there will be consequences. he was truly sorry and cried. i didn't know how to handle this but to just cry. i was in shock.

me and his father has to sit down with him and talk. had to set some major rules and also consequences for his behavior. i just cant believe that was my child.


first of all i explained to my kids what happened because they heard about it at school and on the news and asked me and i was not going to lie to them.

also the school had pulled drills with the kids all this week with the new safety procedures so before this situation it was discussed with the children what had happened, so not sure now where it came from.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 7:12 AM
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by Silver Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:44 AM

Children of this age do not understand how serious it is to say something like this. In my school district he would have been suspended. Any verbal threat is taken seriously. Children this young have been known to bring guns to school. I hope that this terrible thing has reminded parents to keep guns locked away where a small child can not get to them.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:57 AM

I don't think your kid understands what dead is or what guns are. It's hard for a kid like that to really understand these things if they haven't experienced them. I feel bad for him he probably didn't expect people to be so mad and just wanted to shock the other kids.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:03 PM

 Children repeat what they hear. I would just make sure to have a serious talk with him and just make sure he understands how he can not say things like that.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:05 PM

*applaudes* I would have done the same thing.

Quoting fairy_fan:

I had a similar experience.  DH had just bought a new shotgun and also bought YS a BB gun.  A few weeks later YS threatened a girl at school he was going to get his BB gun and shoot her.  She told him it wouldn't hurt so he said he would get his dads shotgun and shoot her in the arm...that would hurt he told her.  The girl reported him and the principal had a long talk with him, of course called me to tell me what happened, and he got an even longer talking to at home with a firm reminder to his butt to remember what they had talked about concerning gun safety.  Haven't had a problem since.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:42 PM
I know that was my concern. My brother was expelled for a similar. Threat

Quoting momma2b2008:

Wow! Around here your kid would have been suspended. We have a zero tolerance policy and it does not discriminate!

But don't beat yourself up to much! Just explain to him that it is not ok to say things like that in public!

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by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 1:01 PM
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 I didnt discuss it with my kids they are 6 & 9. I figured that if they heard anything about it and had questions they'd ask.

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by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 1:04 PM
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Why would you even tell your 5 yr old a man went in a school and killed a lot of innocent kids and teachers? Jesus christ, he's 5, his mind is not ready to hear that kind of shit. All you've done is plant an idea in his head, an idea to him that is more make believe, than it is real.

Never mind you and his father sitting down with him to talk about what "he's" done, you need to apologize to your 5 yr old about how "you" were the reason he got into trouble at school in the first place  then continue your talk.  

Unbelievable.. If you didn't know how to approach your kids about what happened, which is obvious you did not, you should have asked the principal or teachers at the school for advice.

by Sarah on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:54 PM

I agree. My son just turned 7. He doesn't know anything about what happened. I don't plan on telling him unless he somehow hears about it & asks me. If we as adults can't even understand why someone would do such a horrible thing, we can't expect our young children to understand. 

Quoting Pammi86:

I am sorry mama! But he is only 5 and I doubt he truly understood what he said.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 2:57 PM

Don't beat yourself up over this. He must have misunderstood somethings about the conversation and not realizing how serious this matter really is. At least they were just words and can be corrected before something actually does happen. In my dd's old school, a child brought in a water gun, & it was clearly a water gun, but the school called the police on the child and there were major consequences about it. The kids aren't even suppose to make finger guns with their fingers at all.

You did have the right to talk to your child about something like that. Sometimes they do need to know that there are bad people in the world and they need to be aware of it. I can't talk to my 1st grader about it. I know her emotions and she would be afraid to go to school. Then I would have a problem on my hands.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 7:13 PM

The principal cried?

Don't worry, your child is very young and was repeating what he heard.

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