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unappreciated daycare provider rant

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:44 AM
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So I have two kids I'm watching this year.  They are brothers.  One is home sick with dad today but mom still brought the sibling on her way to work.  This makes me angry for many reasons and I'm thinking of adding it to my policy that if one sibling is home sick then the other has to stay home as well.  First of all the sibling has probably been exposed to what the other has just isn't showing signs yet.  Second, if a parent is already staying home then why not use that time to be with BOTH kids?  Even though I'm paid whether they attend or not its not the QUANTITY of time your paying for its the QUALITY I provide.  If mom had kept both kids home she would be giving me a much needed day off.  Something I'd appreciate right now before the holidays.  I never get a bonus over Christmas break and i don't make the parents pay for the time I'm closed over Christmas either.  But back to the kids - why do parents not WANT to spend time with these babies?  Does dad find it too hard to take care of his two children for one afternoon?  If so then maybe I should call DHS on him. Even if i were home sick from work I'd keep my kids home from daycare with me.  These are not school age kids these are babies and toddlers we are talking about and that time goes by way to quick.  Parents are going to MISS these years with their kids.  The two boys spend 45 plus hours with ME monday through Friday.  And I don't fall for the "we want to keep the healthy one away form the sick one" excuse.  Your kid is more likely to catch something here at daycare than they are at home.  When one of my own three kids got sick when they were all little I didn't send the others away.  Also, I have parents who just OVER USE daycare in general.  I'm not a babysitting service.  Call grandma if you want to go work out, get your hair done or get things done around the house.  You as a parent should be WANTING to make up for all the time you're gone from your little ones while you were working.  They are little for such a short time and soon they will be in school.  Why not sacrifice and put as much time as you can into your babies that you CHOSE to have instead of dumping them on me every chance you get?  I'm here to provide a service and make money but I'm a child ADVOCATE first and when parents over use my daycare I feel like I'm actually providing something that if just bad for society.   It's making me want to quit providing home daycare.   Parents need to start being more concerned about the children AND about ME than they are about "getting their moneys worth."

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:44 AM
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little.worthen
by Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:47 AM
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Haha I stopped reading after you still get paid anyway.. If that's your policy and my kid wasn't sick I'd damn sure bring him in. Why put more stress on the dad? He has a sick child to take care of and will be busy with that all day.

Do your JOB, mind your own business and quit whining, or find another profession..
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SweetLuci
by Bronze Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:51 AM
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 Wow! You think parents use you because they don't want to spend time with their kids. Could it possible have something to do with their work schedule?

Are you sure childcare is something you want to do?   If so, you need to decide what your policies are and convey that to the parents rather than expecting them to just somehow figure it out. Sounds like it's not working out for you, and you might be better off looking at other options.

emeraldangel2.0
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:52 AM
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just curious...did you go to school or are you doing this without a credential?

because classes teach you that you are going to face things like this. you shouldn't just go full in thinking it's going to be easy.

and after reading your post, it's obvious that you are doing this without a credential. you need to quit and go back to school before you try this again. i suggest a course talking about how to deal with family. my course was called Home, School, and Community Relations

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yellownes8
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:53 AM
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Wow I'm so glad you aren't my child care provider...if you want a damn day off then stop providing child care for people...
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thecoffeefairy
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:54 AM
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It sounds like you just don't enjoy your job. It's not your place to decide when parents use daycare service. They pay you. You take care of their child. It's irrelevant if its for work or a torrid affair. To even suggest calling DHS is an outrage. There's a huge difference between what your complaining about and actual neglect and abuse. I loved and still love spending time with my kids BUT its not abuse if I chose to let a nanny or daycare service rear them most of the time. It's also not the place of the nanny/ daycare to judge my decisions.
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flowerfunleah
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:56 AM
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Maybe YOU should have dhs called on you for running an illegal daycare.

supercarp
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:00 PM
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Did you communicate all of this to the parents?

Maybe the stay home parent was sick too and felt one kid was all he/she could handle.

fernjo
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:06 PM

Sad that kids in society have moms like some of you on here.  I don't charge by the hour.  It's really a yearly tuition which I allow parents to pay on a week to week basis since I know many are strapped for cash.  They get many discounts and non fee weeks as well. Providing daycare is my JOB and while I love children it's like any other job that has its perks and its lows. The lows are never the kids instead it's usually the parents.  I'm not so much concerned about a day off as I do have some built in and I can take a sick day when I want (which I hardly EVER do because I think of the parents and their work first) it's more that parents don't WANT to be WITH their children anymore that I don't understand.  Parents almost act as if they think I'd do this for FREE since I love their kids and they almost consider me family.  Heck I'm closer to the kids than most of their grandparents.  Sorry, if thats the case and your kids love me and you love the service I provide then you will see my life and my time is of value also.  I have my own family too.  You not appreciating MY time and how hard I work makes me not like my job so much.  We have a relationship and we should BOTH be advocates for your child.  Again, a parents concern should not be the MONEY - the concern should be that they themselves make up for the 40 plus hours they are away from their child and for their child providers feelings.

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by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:11 PM
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Quoting fernjo:

So I have two kids I'm watching this year.  They are brothers.  One is home sick with dad today but mom still brought the sibling on her way to work.  This makes me angry for many reasons and I'm thinking of adding it to my policy that if one sibling is home sick then the other has to stay home as well.  I would not employ a DAYCARE if they couldn't be a DAYCARE! I would not want my child to lose routing, just because one of them is sick. Why should both of their schedules be thrown off. First of all the sibling has probably been exposed to what the other has just isn't showing signs yet.  Second, if a parent is already staying home then why not use that time to be with BOTH kids? Because the sick child needs the attention right now Even though I'm paid whether they attend or not its not the QUANTITY of time your paying for its the QUALITY I provide. Yeah, if I'm paying you, you need to suck it up and deal with the decision I make. I write your paycheck - you get over it.  If mom had kept both kids home she would be giving me a much needed day off. You are the one that decided to be a daycare provider. I'm sure mom doesn't give a shit that you need a day off. She pays you for a service. If you can't cut it, then you need to get a different job.  Something I'd appreciate right now before the holidays.  I never get a bonus over Christmas break and i don't make the parents pay for the time I'm closed over Christmas either.  Yeah, most daycares don't make you pay when THEY are closed!!! And a Christmas bonus is not required. From your attitude, I don't think you deserve one! But back to the kids - why do parents not WANT to spend time with these babies?  Does dad find it too hard to take care of his two children for one afternoon?  Probably! One of them is SICK!!! If so then maybe I should call DHS on him. That is ludacris!! Because dad is showing attention to the sick child - you're a nut case!!!!  Even if i were home sick from work I'd keep my kids home from daycare with me. I didn't, when my son was in daycare. Why keep him around to catch it  These are not school age kids these are babies and toddlers we are talking about and that time goes by way to quick. Back to the need for routine  Parents are going to MISS these years with their kids.  The two boys spend 45 plus hours with ME monday through Friday. Because their parents have to WORK  And I don't fall for the "we want to keep the healthy one away form the sick one" excuse.  Your kid is more likely to catch something here at daycare than they are at home. Is your daycare THAT nasty When one of my own three kids got sick when they were all little I didn't send the others away.  Also, I have parents who just OVER USE daycare in general.  I'm not a babysitting service.  That is exactly what you are ! Call grandma if you want to go work out, get your hair done or get things done around the house. It's none of your business, as long as you are getting paid  You as a parent should be WANTING to make up for all the time you're gone from your little ones while you were working.  They are little for such a short time and soon they will be in school.  Why not sacrifice and put as much time as you can into your babies that you CHOSE to have instead of dumping them on me every chance you get? You are paid! That is all you need to concern yourself with  I'm here to provide a service and make money but I'm a child ADVOCATE first and when parents over use my daycare I feel like I'm actually providing something that if just bad for society. Oh give me a break you lunatic  It's making me want to quit providing home daycare.   You need to! You sound like an awful person. Parents need to start being more concerned about the children AND about ME Why the fuck should parents concern themselves with YOU???  than they are about "getting their moneys worth." Why would I pay my mother to babysit, when I need a sitter, so I can run errands, when I am already paying YOU to be available?>???


fernjo
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:23 PM

Thank you for proving my point about how sad parents are today.   I can terminate any daycare parent at any time.  I don't buy the excuse that dad is putting all his time into that sick child.  I've seen that one one too many times.  The mom will say "he was so glad to get that kitchen project done while Johnny napped or watched movies all day."   I've provided care for years and seen and heard it all.  I guess I hold out hope that parents will BE PARENTS but saddly for these babies it just gets worse over the years.  I do what I do because I love kids so it's only natural that I see what is going on wrong at home and that I FEEL for these kids.  It really is OVER USE of daycare.  Stay at home moms did MORE for their kids years ago and they were with them ALLLL DAY LONG.  If you are gone 9 hours a day five days a week then you had better WANT to be taking them along to even your gyno appointmets if you can swing it.  Thats not an exaggeration either as I did when my little one was small enough to carry around and had to be breast fed.  I just feel sad for these babies.  And society wonders why todays kids have problems.

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