does anyone else have any advice abot having a 3 year old and how to make them listen . ?
Wish I knew that trick, I have a 10 year old who still doesn't listen but it's getting better. I read somewhere to whisper to your kids that way they have to stop what they are doing to pay attention to what you are saying.
Nope sorry, I do however have a 19 month old is is turning into a terror!
We used to have my older ds sit on his bed until he was ready to listen....
They are listening, they just lack the brain development to handle what you say as well as an adult would be able to. The best thing you can do is reframe your expectations and give more love, affection, validation and empathy. Then start working on giving the 3yo tools to better handle his/her emotions and actions. Don't manipulate, do the work of actualy teaching with patience. Manipulation will not give you the desired outcomes in the long run (probably not in the short term either). It takes time for a 3 yo to learn. Teach, lead and guide!! Set realistic expectations.
Work on gaining cooperation through play and connection. Turn it into a game. Power struggles are never going to end well. Play instead. Want her to pick up her toys? Turn it into a game. Make it fun. Say what you want with a funny voice and encourage her to do the same.
A great book on how to gain cooperation through play is Playful Parenting, check it out. Another great one is You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded). HTH!
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