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horrible 3s ?

Posted by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:50 PM
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does anyone else have any advice abot having a 3 year old and how to make them listen . ? 

by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:50 PM
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goddess99
by Michelle on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:11 PM

Wish I knew that trick, I have a 10 year old who still doesn't listen but it's getting better. I read somewhere to whisper to your kids that way they have to stop what they are doing to pay attention to what you are saying.

thecoffeefairy
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:15 PM
Consistency. Most methods will work in time if you remain calm and are consistent.
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Pammi86
by Pamela on Jan. 5, 2013 at 7:55 PM

Nope sorry, I do however have a 19 month old is is turning into a terror!

lesleefong
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 8:25 PM
We the hispanics have something called 'la chancleta!!!' Lol most hispanics are raised with that. Its basically a sandal... you would get hit with it every time you would do something bad, it was horrifying!! No matter how far you run or where you hide the chancleta will find you!!!! Its true but it all depends on the child... you have to try diferent ways of manipulation. Make them think that whatever they do is what they want to do... I know it might sound difficult but youll get the hang of it. I do it all the time!!! And it even works with old people!! I hope it works!! If not negotiate with him or her!! It also works!!
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signingmama2915
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 10:17 PM

We used to have my older ds sit on his bed until he was ready to listen....

Janet
by Ruby Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 10:49 PM
Three can be a difficult age.
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SlapItHigh
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 12:53 AM

They are listening, they just lack the brain development to handle what you say as well as an adult would be able to.  The best thing you can do is reframe your expectations and give more love, affection, validation and empathy.  Then start working on giving the 3yo tools to better handle his/her emotions and actions.  Don't manipulate, do the work of actualy teaching with patience.  Manipulation will not give you the desired outcomes in the long run (probably not in the short term either).  It takes time for a 3 yo to learn.  Teach, lead and guide!!  Set realistic expectations.  

Work on gaining cooperation through play and connection.  Turn it into a game.  Power struggles are never going to end well.  Play instead.  Want her to pick up her toys?  Turn it into a game.  Make it fun.  Say what you want with a funny voice and encourage her to do the same.  

A great book on how to gain cooperation through play is Playful Parenting, check it out.  Another great one is You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded).  HTH!

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